Month: October 2014 | Julia Kristina Counselling

Why People Treat Us the Way they Do.

By Julia Kristina|2017-05-21T16:05:53-07:00October 28th, 2014|General|

There’s an idea out there in the psychology world that we create, to a large extent, how people treat us. This is a big one that I've recently been finding myself thinking and philosophizing about more than usual. Now obviously if we are rude and mean to someone most likely they will respond to us with anger or resentment… nothing profound there. And, sometimes bosses, coworkers, friends, loved ones, and even complete strangers will be overtly rude to us for no apparent reason… I’m not saying we necessarily caused them to treat us in this [...]

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One of the Most Important Skills You Can Use.

By Julia Kristina|2017-05-21T16:05:53-07:00October 24th, 2014|General|

Recently I came across some psychology literature that caught my attention. The author, well-known psychiatrist Scott M. Peck, points out that one of the most important skills we can teach our children, and also practice more of ourselves, is delaying gratification. When we wait a few minutes/hours/days before indulging in a decadent dessert/buying a new pair of shoes/or becoming the first time owner of a new sports car we appreciate and enjoy the object of our desire much more, or, the other thing that happens is we lose interest in said item and decide not [...]

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Is It Better to Work Hard or Take A Step Back?

By Julia Kristina|2017-05-21T16:05:54-07:00October 20th, 2014|General|

When in your golden years and reflecting back on that which has been your life thus far, what would you like to say to yourself? “Gosh, I wish I would have just chilled out more and taken time to rest, relax, and spend time with the people I love.” Or “Oh man, I sure wish I would have just gotten over my fears, hesitations, excuses, and lack of belief in myself and just gone for the goals and dreams I really wanted to work toward and accomplish.” This is a tough one because neither is [...]

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No One Is Going to Pay You to Do What You Love.

By Julia Kristina|2017-05-21T16:05:54-07:00October 2nd, 2014|General|

I could have sworn that I've written about this before, but can’t, for the life of me, find where. So, I guess I must have talked about it so much I just assumed I’d actually put it out there in to cyber space for a larger audience to be aware of. It’s true. No one is going to pay you to do what you love. Well, I guess it’s true… sort of. There are some people who really are lucky enough to love and be passionate about the work they are involved in, and actually [...]

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