You probably know someone who prides themselves on being chill, unbothered, or just not emotional.

But here’s the truth: a lot of what looks like emotional intelligence is actually emotional avoidance, control, or shutdown.

In this video, I’m breaking down 5 subtle signs of fake emotional intelligence — and how to spot them, so you can stop questioning your own sanity when something feels off.

We’ll talk about:

  •  The difference between emotional regulation and emotional repression
  • How to recognize emotional avoidance in disguise
  • What real emotional maturity looks like (and how to build it fast)

Stay to the end, because I’ll share what emotional maturity actually is — and how anyone can strengthen it with the right tools.