Most people experience intrusive, invasive, anxiety provoking thoughts at some point or another. Nonetheless, it can be really disturbing and distressing when it happens - especially when you don't know how to make it stop, and when you do try to make it stop, you often end up making it worse. Here I'm going to teach you how to stop your intrusive thoughts and both retrain and then rewire your brain to be more calm when intrusive thoughts try to throw you off.
Breathing exercises are a really effective way to relieve stress & anxiety, and in this video I tell you what happens in the brain when we focus on our breath and why it's such an effective way to relieve anxiety. Then I walk you through my favourite 4-7-8 breathing exercise.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_DVLIslfX0 Don't let things get to you. It sounds easy, and it is, if you know how to work with your brain instead of against it when something is bothering you. Here we're going to talk about Mental Adaptability and how this simple practice will help you be more calm, less stressed, more easygoing and a lot more resilient.
Most people think they are standing up for themselves when they're defending themselves to someone because they think that person is completely wrong about them - but that's not true. The real reason people get defensive either at work on in any of their relationships may just blow your mind.
YOU DON'T NEED THEIR APPROVAL // AKA CODEPENDENT BEHAVIOR We do things, and we don't do things, or we say things or we don't say things either because we're trying to get approval from others or we're trying to stop them from taking it away. This is a codependent behavior. And the truth is, you don't need their approval for the choices you make for yourself about the things that impact you. Stop seeking approval and start self-differentiating. I promise, it will make you so much more confident and happy than needing other people to [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BdQnfyVAtyo Here we talk about what decreases our ability to cope which then often ends up in either anger toward others or anger directed toward ourselves, and what we can do to help increase it.
Resentment can be a tough one because more often than not, the person we are bitter and resentful toward has no idea we resent them. There is a process to stop feeling resentful so we can let go of resentment and in this video I'm going to teach it to you.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE // DIFFICULT PEOPLE We all have someone in our lives that we find difficult and that we often label as a difficult person. And in this video I'm going to teach you how to deal with difficult people in a way you probably have never learned before. This tool is incredibly powerful when we're able to take a step back and reflect and respond instead of react to someone we're finding difficult. I hope you love this tool as much as I do.
BE YOURSELF//POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE Many among us are often scared to truly be ourselves. We scared to feel good about ourselves, believe in ourselves or acknowledge ourselves for who we are and the strengths and gifts we have. It can feel vulnerable to be ourselves and to create a positive self-image and we often don't know who to truly feel good about who we are because no one told us we could.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aR7OYNB6KxY I'm going to be honest - loving yourself takes work. It's not as easy as just deciding one day that you're going to do it. What it takes to love yourself is not just about trying to stop feeling bad about yourself, but it requires that you first deal with the mindset blocks, or self-defeating beliefs that are stopping you from being able to do it in the first place. In this video I teach you 3 reasons you still don't love yourself - even though you think you want to, and how [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3npVeBkUkHk Here's a catch 22: there are things you do when you're anxious that make anxiety worse, which then causes you to keep doing these things. In order to make anxiety better, you need to stop doing these things. The good news is, when you stop doing them, you'll not only feel less anxious in the moment but will also then feel less compelled to do them.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skBpCoBukaM Self-love is something most of us want more of, but few of us actually know how to do. Love as a concept is something we're all able to give to others, but have a hard time giving it to ourselves. In this video I teach more deeply on why that is, and teach you one easy way to actually love yourself more, how to boost your self love and how to practice authentic self-love.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yc8cp2xkP3w Emotional intelligence is not a valuation of your worth, rather a result of the type of emotional intelligence learning and modelling you had access to. And regardless of where you're at on your emotional intelligence journey being more intentional and aware of the things we think, say or do will help us feel more in charge of our minds, out emotions and our lives - and this, in and of itself will also help build confidence.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46lvtzqCfjw It's easy to sit and wonder why you can't make a decision and then get frustrated with yourself for getting stuck in indecision. In this talk on@Julia Kristina Counselling I talk about the real reason you can't make a decision, and how to make it easier for yourself to do it in any situation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cln0A7UCw9w We all have subconscious beliefs that are getting in our way, holding us back and keeping us stuck. These beliefs can often seem like they are true and can lead to self-sabotaging choices and behaviours that keep us stuck. Here I talk about 7 common ones, and how to overcome them so you can feel more calm, confident and more in charge of your mind, emotions and your life.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q7rdEjltuiM There are things many of us do everyday without realizing it that kill our confidence. And if we want to boost our confidence we have to be mindful and intentional about what and how we are thinking about ourselves. confidence is not something that just happens, it's something that's built and in this video I'm going to 5 ways you may be damaging your confidence unintentionally and how to turn things around so you can become more confident.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWudYOMlQw0 Procrastinating is something most of us do - but if you're blaming yourself for being weak or undisciplined and think that being harder on yourself will help you focus, the exact opposite is true. Here I talk about the 7 main reasons people procrastinate and how to stop procrastinating so you can get focused and do what you need to do.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=owVF9AzCDnQ If you're feeling behind in life and things just aren't where you thought they'd be at this point, or you've struggled with something longer than you thought you would and now feel like you've lost all that time, this message is for you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0COrk19kLXg Our lack of self-love and self acceptance are at the root of many of our biggest struggles. Which means that once you start loving yourself more, a whole lot of other things will get better in your life too. Here are a list of several things that will improve when you love yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yAuOX31pf6U There is a lot going on in the world, and even if your life is not dramatically different right now, your brain is still working hard to try to keep you safe, but it doesn't know exactly what to do which is why it's more tired than usual. In this video I teach you what's going on in your brain right now and why you're likely more stressed, anxious, worn out and less motivated than usual.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K90_uOatRwA Trust is the foundation of our healthy relationships with others and self-trust is the foundation of our healthy relationships with others. Self-Trust is also the foundation of a deep sense of confidence within ourselves and both when we believe in ourselves it builds self-trust and as we build self-trust it allows us to more easily believe in ourselves. Have I convinced you how important self-trust is yet?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tiXfAHmt1Ao There are several goals many people set and then get discouraged because not matter how hard they try they can't seem to reach their goals. But the truth is, the reason people are not reaching these goals is because they are goals you can't reach. Here I'll tell you what they are so you can save yourself the frustration and the self-blame.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-yh94UTBdg You might be keeping yourself stuck by doing too much and here we're going to talk about the cognitive science backed reasons why this happens and what to do about it so you can grow or heal or thrive - or all of the above. And it all starts when you stop trying so hard.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lm0sEqTzTwo There are little things you may be unconsciously or out of habit that are killing your happiness. Some of them you may not know you're doing, and some you may not realize that you don't have to keep doing. Being intentional about working on each of these will make you happier.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfXScC78T0w Boundaries are about much more than just learning to say no to others. We also need to have healthy boundaries within ourselves. Here I talk about 7 different boundaries you need to set in your life for your health, happiness and sanity.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtNX9ca6f2A You may be repeating past mistakes and getting stuck in the same pattern over and over again because you keep reacting to the present as if it's the past, which ultimately keeps you stuck in the past. In this video I'm going to teach you how to stop living in the past and reacting to the past so you can have the present and future you want most.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfrkVMCif9M It's hard to always know if we are acting out of ego or out of our true self. But it's important we learn the difference because when we act out of ego, we never feel truly satisfied because the ego seeks from the outside to overcompensate for a lack on the inside - which, it can never truly do. Watch this video here on my channel @Julia Kristina Counselling a few times and really take it in, and learning how to act out of your true self vs. your ego self will transform [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vowNKr5MrU0 When things get hard it's easy to get discouraged and then give up - but giving up won't help you move forward or have what you want most in life. Here are 5 things you need to know when you're feeling discouraged that will help you stay focused, motivated and moving forward toward the things that are important to you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDNXKWvfCtY Not letting other people control your emotions means one little thing done or said by someone else doesn't have the power to ruin your whole day, or worse, even longer. When you learn how to trust yourself and become in charge of your own mind and emotions you can stop letting people trigger you, you can stop overreacting, and you can stop letting others control your happiness because you are now in charge.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=We2ccnX0RbU The goal in life isn't to be happy all the time - that's not the point. We need to be able to experience the full spectrum of emotions. But there are things that make us unnecessarily unhappy and take from, instead of add to, our lives. We don't need to be happy all the time to have a full and rich life, but there are things you may be doing that are making you stay unhappy when you don't need to be - here are 6 of them.