A lot of us struggle with guilt. It is a complex topic and can be muddled to a lot of things like shame and remorse. In today’s talk, I'm going to teach you the difference between guilt, shame, and remorse, how we often get guilt and shame mixed up, and why this is a major problem. I'm going to teach you how to understand guilt, how to deal with guilt, how to let go of guilt, and how to stop using guilt, because the truth is, it's a sneaky form of manipulation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Av29aUScwI You're not a failure. You might think that you're failing yourself because you haven't always gotten the results you want that you are, but you're not. Here I'm going to teach you both how to stop feeling like a failure and how to succeed at your goals. This talk will give you the motivation to keep going when you feel like giving up.
It is my commitment to you that nothing I post online is going to be fear-mongering or contribute to any hysteria or anxiety about what is happening during this global coronavirus pandemic. My goal is to create and provide a space for you that is grounding, safe and helpful. In this talk, we're going to take a step back, and learn tools to stay calmer and grounded when all our brains want to do is panic and freak out over coronavirus. I'm going to teach you how to cope better and feel better when everything [...]
We're all feeling a lot of emotions right now, and our brains are having a hard time making sense of what's going on in the world. Some are feeling anxious about the coronavirus and the impact it's going to have on us directly, how it's going to impact the economy or our jobs. And some are feeling lonely and disconnected because of social distancing and social isolation. Coping with the Coronavirus outbreak isn't easy for most of us, and I'm going to teach you some tools to help you cope with the Corona Crisis better.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=US3e9IhB1Ss You might often wonder to yourself "why am I unhappy? Things in my life seem okay, so what's going on?" There are things that your brain is doing without you being aware of it that are making you unhappy, and here we're going to talk about the 6 main ones. This talk goes deeper into our psyche, so be sure to stay tuned till the end to get some deep shifts.
When things are uncertain, we usually default to either fear or anger and it's because the human brain hates uncertainty. Whether it's uncertainty about a global pandemic or about a meeting with your boss - when things are uncertain, our brain tries to protect us by imagining the worse case scenario - whether it's actually helpful or not. In today’s episode of Good For Me TV, I teach you 6 key mindset shifts that are going to calm your anxiety both during this coronavirus pandemic, and they are also perspective shifts you can apply to [...]
There is a lot of uncertainty happening in the world right now - for all of us. And needless to say, it can be really stressful and anxiety-provoking. It's tough to know how to deal with uncertainty and it requires a kind of mental strength that has nothing to do with toughening it out. In fact, it's the exact opposite. How mentally strong people deal with uncertainty might surprise you, and I'm going to teach you how they do it here now.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBDChIDIxGI You may be struggling with anxiety without knowing it because you don't see yourself as the typical person who appears anxious on the outside. You may be struggling with something called High Functioning Anxiety. Here are 10 high-functioning anxiety symptoms that will give you more insight so you can seek out effective ways to help you overcome anxiety.
We're going to talk about grief. Not the grief of losing a loved one, but the grief of losing something every single one of us has lost in the last month - our plans of how we thought our lives were going to go for at least the first half of this year. And although it may not be as serious as losing a loved one, it still hurts and it's still hard and our brains may be having a hard time with it- and that's okay. We're also going to talk about how move [...]
Being around people who tend to be more negative can be challenging. Let's face it - it can be downright annoying. But there is something we can do about it that doesn't involve cutting them off completely. I'm going to teach you empowering ways to deal with negative people - or at least those people who tend to be more negative than we'd prefer.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLqHGu7U9Ag There are those who have an internal locus of control and those with an external locus of control. When you understand and implement the locus rule it will show you how to change your life and be happier, have more fun and be more fulfilled in life.
This talk on my channel, @Julia Kristina Counselling, is about the difference between being an empath and being co-dependent. Although two can be related, someone who experiences codependency isn't necessarily someone who is more empathic and vice versa. Here we're going to talk about the key difference between being and empath and being codependent and what if you experience both, what will help you be a caring, sensitive person without the struggles that come with relating to others in a co-dependent way.
Although it often feels better to have a positive mindset vs a negative one, there is a dark side to trying to think, be and act positive all the time. Being too positive can make you feel worse if it's done in order to repress, deny or avoid other feelings may need to be experienced, and there is a danger in being too positive because part of being human means it's also okay to sometimes feel awful.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8jfC1bt1fg Catastrophizing - i.e. expecting things to go bad, is a type of cognitive distortion that can lead to all kinds of anxious and depressed feelings. In this video, I teach some CBT tools to help you stop this thought error and start thinking in ways the will make you feel a lot better.
Join me for this life changing talk on Ways to Build Resilience with one of the 10 most influential psychologists of our time, one of the creators of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and a brilliant, world changing mind, Dr. Don Meichenbaum. Here are the Free Resources Dr. Meichenbaum mentioned in the interview: The Roadmap to Resilience: https://roadmaptoresilience.wordpress.com/ The Melissa Institute: https://melissainstitute.org/covid-19/
Both social anxiety and feeling socially awkward can be frustrating when all we want is to feel comfortable being ourselves no matter where we are or who we're with. The catch 22 is, the more we try to stop coming across as socially awkward or socially anxious, the more of them we become because we're trying too hard to be someone we're not. In this talk I share with you several mindset shifts to help you feel more confident in who you are right now, and worry less about what other people may be thinking [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8oIqEihm9k Here are 5 effective conflict resolution techniques. Conflict is a part of life and can't always be, and shouldn't always be avoided. Although conflict is often uncomfortable, learning how to manage conflict, and manage ourselves within it will make it a lot easier to deal with. The next time you're not seeing eye to eye with someone - instead of blaming, getting defensive, or getting angry and worked up - try some of these strategies.
Many of us went through difficult or painful things in our childhood that we may not realize have had a negative impact on us as adults. Although these weren't necessarily severely traumatic experiences, there are still many ways that your childhood affects your lifestyle and ways your childhood is affecting you now. These harmful experiences in childhood can lead to thing like self-abandonment, emotional enmeshment, people pleasing, being emotional disconnected from yourself or others, identity struggles, or unhealthy relationship patterns... to name a few. And here we're going to learn what some of those experiences [...]
We all have an ego - and if left unchecked, it will get in our way and hold us back. Many people have asked me what the ego is, how to know if your ego is running your life even if you're not full of yourself. In this talk I teach about what the ego is, how it shows up and how to start doing ego work.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vFq_xoxuQU If you often lose your motivation and quit things shortly after you start, and as a result, often feel discouraged and disappointed in yourself, this video's going to help. This talk is going to help you stay focused and working toward the things most important to you.
In this talk we go deeper into talking about ego and ego fear and how most of our fear is not about an actual threat to our safety, but about a threat to our ego. This ego fear can result in a lot of self-sabotage and unnecessary struggle that can be dealt with simply by learning how to manage the ego.
This video is part 3 of my 3 part series on ego work. Most of the time, when we're getting emotionally triggered it's because our ego is feel threatened and so it gets defensive. This triggered defensiveness can show up in many different ways and in this talk I give 7 different ways our ego shows up to try and protect us when we're feeling vulnerable or defensive and what we can do to manage the ego so the ego doesn't control us.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XDeKzO2FGWs Negative thoughts. Everyone has them - at least some times. And the one thing they all have in common is that they leave us feeling terrible. In this video, we're going to use some CBT skills to stop those unhelpful thoughts when they show up and try to take you down so you can like yourself and your life more every day.
It can be really hard to make an effective apology if we've never learned how to do it. And as hard as it can be to put the ego aside and take personal responsibility when we've wronged someone, it is so freeing when we can own our mistakes, and then make a proper apology. Here I teach the properly apologize in 3 steps and 2 common mistakes most people make when they apologies that essentially makes the apology unhelpful.
There are so many things we've learned to feel bad about that are completely unnecessary, and feeling bad about them both serves no purpose and can also be harmful to us and hold us back in our lives.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sEwnIkHIpxs Feeling anxious when life is good and things are going well. It's like the anxiety comes out of nowhere and ruins the whole happy vibe you've got going on. Here I'm going to talk about why we worry when things are good and then wait for something to go wrong, instead of just enjoying feeling good. You're also going to learn some tools to give you anxiety relief.
Most people experience intrusive, invasive, anxiety provoking thoughts at some point or another. Nonetheless, it can be really disturbing and distressing when it happens - especially when you don't know how to make it stop, and when you do try to make it stop, you often end up making it worse. Here I'm going to teach you how to stop your intrusive thoughts and both retrain and then rewire your brain to be more calm when intrusive thoughts try to throw you off.
Breathing exercises are a really effective way to relieve stress & anxiety, and in this video I tell you what happens in the brain when we focus on our breath and why it's such an effective way to relieve anxiety. Then I walk you through my favourite 4-7-8 breathing exercise.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_DVLIslfX0 Don't let things get to you. It sounds easy, and it is, if you know how to work with your brain instead of against it when something is bothering you. Here we're going to talk about Mental Adaptability and how this simple practice will help you be more calm, less stressed, more easygoing and a lot more resilient.
Most people think they are standing up for themselves when they're defending themselves to someone because they think that person is completely wrong about them - but that's not true. The real reason people get defensive either at work on in any of their relationships may just blow your mind.