How do you talk about what matters — without the other person shutting down, getting defensive, or pulling away? It’s not just what you say — it’s how your nervous system delivers the message. In this video, I’ll show you: ✨ Why communication breaks down even when your words seem fine ✨ How to regulate your nervous system before and during hard conversations ✨ A simple 4-step framework (OFNR) to express yourself clearly and kindly — even when it’s tough Because when you feel safe inside, your words land differently. And real connection becomes [...]

 You know that voice in your head that shows up when you've fumbled, failed, messed up, been left out or hurt in some way. The one that says: "You're not good enough." "Everyone else has it figured out." "You're going to mess this up." That voice? It's your inner critic — and it can be ruthless. That voice isn’t the real you. It’s fear. It's mis-guided self-protection It’s old wiring. And in this video, I’m going to show you how to talk back to it — in a way that feels grounded, real, and [...]

 Feeling flat, foggy, or numb — but not sure why? You might be stuck in emotional freeze — a nervous system state that shuts down your energy, clarity, and connection… all to protect you from overwhelm. But here's what most people don’t realize: You might be doing tiny things every day that are quietly reinforcing that frozen state — and making it harder to thaw out. In this video, I’ll walk you through 10 subtle habits that keep your nervous system stuck in freeze — and more importantly, what you can gently start doing [...]

 Feeling exhausted, anxious, or resentful—but not sure why? You might be quietly neglecting your own needs... without even realizing it. In this video, I’m sharing 5 sneaky signs of self-abandonment—the subtle ways we override our own feelings, silence our needs, and lose touch with ourselves in everyday life. These aren’t the obvious signs. They’re the ones we’ve normalized. The ones that fly under the radar while slowly eroding our self-trust and emotional wellbeing. If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, "Why do I feel so disconnected?" "Why am I always second-guessing myself?" "Why do I [...]

 How to deal with one-uppers: People who constantly “one-up” others can be exhausting to deal with. Whether you’re sharing a personal story, a win at work, or something you’re struggling with, they always seem to have a better, bigger, or more dramatic version. In this video, we’ll talk about why people one-up in the first place—what’s really driving the behavior—and more importantly, how to handle people who always try to one-up you without losing your cool or getting pulled into the competition. You’ll learn practical strategies to acknowledge, redirect, or even call it out [...]

 Dealing with defensive people can be exhausting—especially when all you're trying to do is have a normal conversation, offer feedback, or express your feelings. But here’s the thing: defensiveness isn’t about you. It’s a psychological response to feeling emotionally threatened. In this video, I break down why people get so defensive (hint: it’s often linked to insecurities, past experiences, or even their nervous system being stuck in fight-or-flight mode) AND exactly how to handle it without escalating the situation. You’ll learn: ✅ The 5 biggest reasons people react defensively (and how to spot them) [...]

 Do you find yourself getting easily offended by what people say or do? Maybe it feels like an attack, an accusation, or a rejection—but what if you had the power to stop letting it affect you so much? In this talk, I’ll walk you through six key strategies to stop taking things so personally and start feeling more confident, grounded, and in control of your emotions. You’ll learn how to separate intent from impact (not everyone is out to hurt you), regulate your emotions in the moment, and recognize when something triggers an insecurity. [...]

 Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP)? If you’ve ever felt like the volume on life is turned up a little louder for you—emotionally, physically, and socially—you’re not alone. Highly sensitive people experience the world in a deeply intuitive and intense way, noticing details others miss, feeling emotions more powerfully, and needing time to recharge from overstimulation. In this video, I’m breaking down 8 special traits of highly sensitive people, including heightened awareness, deep empathy, strong intuition, and the need for mindful regulation. If you’ve ever wondered why you process the world differently or [...]

 Are you a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or an Empath? While these terms are often used interchangeably, they describe two distinct experiences. In this video, we’ll break down the key differences between HSPs and empaths, how each experiences the world, and what you can do to thrive if you identify with one (or both) of these traits. 🔹 HSPs have a biologically heightened nervous system, making them more sensitive to stimuli like bright lights, loud noises, and deep emotions—but they don’t necessarily absorb other people’s emotions. 🔹 Empaths, on the other hand, actually take [...]

 Have you ever had one small thing go wrong, and suddenly your brain spirals into a full-blown disaster scenario? Your boss emails you with a simple “Can we talk?” and you’re already convinced you’re getting fired. Your partner is in a bad mood, and you assume it’s because of something you did. A friend doesn’t text back right away, and your mind tells you they must be upset with you. This is catastrophizing—a cognitive distortion where your brain takes a minor issue and turns it into the worst possible outcome, without any real evidence. [...]

 Toxic relationships don’t always start that way. They often begin with connection, excitement, and promise—until unhealthy patterns emerge. But avoiding these relationships isn’t about avoiding people altogether; it’s about learning to recognize the dynamics that drain, harm, or diminish you. In this talk, we’ll break down how to identify red flags early, set firm boundaries, and cultivate relationships that are built on trust, respect, and mutual understanding. You’ll learn why self-awareness is key, how your own responses shape your relationships, and what to do when someone refuses to meet you halfway. If you’ve ever [...]

 Have you ever found yourself in a conversation with someone who just won’t take responsibility for their actions? They dodge tough conversations, get defensive at the slightest criticism, or always seem to make everything about them. Dealing with emotionally immature people can be exhausting, but the key is learning how to navigate these interactions without getting pulled into their chaos. In this video, we’ll explore the telltale signs of emotional immaturity—like avoiding accountability, poor communication, and a lack of empathy—and, more importantly, how to respond effectively. You’ll learn simple but powerful strategies to protect [...]

 Ever feel like rejection hits you harder than it should? Maybe a small comment or a lack of response spirals into overthinking, self-doubt, or even a full-blown confidence crisis. You might find yourself replaying moments in your head, questioning everything you said or did, or even blaming yourself for things that weren’t your fault. In this video, we’ll unpack why rejection sensitivity might be holding you back and explore how it shows up in your life—whether it’s people-pleasing, avoiding vulnerability, perfectionism, or spotting rejection where it doesn’t exist. If rejection often leaves you feeling [...]

 Have you ever stopped to think about how you treat yourself? Would you be friends with someone who treated you the way you treat yourself? In this video, I’m breaking down 6 subtle yet powerful signs that you might have a toxic relationship with yourself—and how to start shifting it. From being overly critical to downplaying your successes, these patterns can hold you back from living the confident, fulfilling life you deserve. We’ll explore: Why over-apologizing might signal something deeper. How self-sabotage shows up in sneaky ways. The toll of overthinking and why it [...]

 After 15 years as a therapist and coach, I’ve seen one of the biggest things holding people back from happiness is this: caring too much about the wrong things. It’s exhausting, overwhelming, and keeps you stuck in patterns that don’t serve you. In this video, we’ll explore how caring about certain things—things you might not even realize—could be preventing you from feeling free, fulfilled, and at peace. I’ll also share practical insights on how to shift your focus to what truly matters so you can start building the life you deserve. If you’re ready [...]

 Are you unintentionally letting low self-esteem impact your relationships? This video dives deep into how feeling "less than" or insignificant can lead to actions that unintentionally hurt or confuse others. If you grew up feeling undervalued, bullied, or overlooked, you might not realize how your behaviors—like declining invitations without follow-up, staying silent when someone needs support, or putting yourself down—affect the people around you. I’ll unpack five ways low self-esteem can manifest in your relationships and offer practical strategies to shift these patterns. From learning to communicate your needs clearly to showing up in [...]

 Are your goals really goals—or just dreams in disguise? In this video, we explore the critical difference between dreaming and achieving: having a plan. It’s easy to get caught up in the dopamine rush of setting a lofty goal, but without a clear roadmap, those goals often remain just that—dreams. We’ll dive into what stops us from creating actionable plans, including resistance, competing priorities, and the mental roadblocks that hold us back. Whether it’s eating healthier, pursuing a passion, advancing your career, or building meaningful relationships, this video will challenge you to ask yourself: [...]

 This video walks you through a simple, but effective little exercise to calm your mind and regain clarity when you're feeling anxious about things that are out of control. Learn how to identify what’s truly within your control, what isn’t, and where you can influence outcomes without falling into the trap of trying to control the uncontrollable. By shifting your focus to what you can manage, this practice helps reduce anxiety and build a sense of grounded confidence. Whether you're struggling with work stress, relationship worries, or general uncertainty, this step-by-step exercise will help [...]

 Can emotionally immature people change? The short answer is yes—but it’s not always that simple. Change requires awareness, willingness, and effort. Unfortunately, many emotionally immature people lack the self-awareness needed to take that first step. In this video, we’ll explore what emotional immaturity looks like, including the challenges it brings to relationships and personal growth. We’ll discuss key traits like difficulty managing emotions, poor communication, and resistance to feedback, and share six practical ways someone can start building emotional maturity. Whether you're navigating a relationship with an emotionally immature person or reflecting on your [...]

 Are you a people pleaser? Do you find yourself avoiding conflict, smoothing things over, or trying to make everyone happy—even if it means ignoring your own needs? People pleasing might look like kindness on the surface, but it’s actually a survival mechanism many of us developed when love felt conditional. It’s the way we tried to feel safe and connected by becoming what we thought others wanted us to be. The problem? When you spend all your energy hustling for love and acceptance, you lose sight of who you truly are—and never experience being [...]

 Have you ever been hit with a wave of anxiety out of nowhere—maybe while going about your day or even waking up in the middle of the night with a heavy sense of dread? It’s unsettling when there doesn’t seem to be an obvious cause, and it can leave you feeling confused and powerless. But what if those feelings of anxiety aren’t as random as they seem? In this talk, I unpack what is really happening when anxiety shows up unannounced and share some effective ways to understanding and managing it. From recognizing hidden [...]

 Do you find yourself tangled in intrusive thoughts that just won't let go? You're not alone. In this talk, I explore why common strategies like "just think positive," "let it go," or "get over it" often fail and can even make those pesky thoughts linger longer. We dive into five ineffective approaches, and why resisting these thoughts only gives them more power. But there’s a better way. Here I introduce Radical Acceptance, a transformative technique that helps you acknowledge and detach from unwanted thoughts without judgment. You'll learn five practical phrases to use when [...]

 Everyone needs healthy boundaries to build and maintain fulfilling relationships. Setting boundaries goes beyond just saying no—it means clearly communicating your personal limits, needs, and values in a respectful and assertive way. When you establish boundaries effectively, others are more likely to respect you, giving you a sense of freedom and helping you break free from people-pleasing and codependency. Healthy boundaries lead to balanced and supportive relationships, boost your self-esteem, and enhance your self-respect. They empower you to navigate conflicts with confidence and prioritize your own well-being, resulting in deeper and more meaningful connections. [...]

 Do you ever find yourself stuck in the exhausting cycle of comparing yourself to others? You're not alone. In this video, I delve into the reasons why comparison can be so damaging to your self-esteem and overall happiness. I'll share practical, actionable steps to help you break free from these harmful patterns and focus on your own unique journey. From recognizing when you're making comparisons to shifting your mindset and surrounding yourself with supportive people, you'll discover effective strategies to enhance your personal growth and well-being. Whether you're struggling with social media pressures or [...]

 Do you ever feel like you're never good enough? You're not alone—97% of people in a recent poll admitted they sometimes, often, or always feel this way. While it's a common struggle, it doesn't have to be your reality, and changing this mindset isn't as hard as you might think. In this video, we'll explore what "good enough" really means and how you might be setting unrealistic standards for yourself. We'll delve into how comparing yourself to others, chasing perfection, and waiting for external validation can keep you stuck in a cycle of self-doubt. [...]

 Feeling anxious, upset, or irritated but can't pinpoint why? It’s a common experience that can leave you feeling confused and overwhelmed. In this video, I’ll guide you through practical steps to help you identify 5 likely reasons you're feeling these emotions and find clarity, even when the cause isn’t immediately obvious. We'll explore how to tune into your body, and identify hidden stressors to help you tend to what you need and give you peace of mind. If you're looking for ways to handle those confusing emotional moments, this talk is for you!

 So many among us were taught to be nice in certain ways that may actually be both hurting and harming us. Many of these was can also be bad for our relationships. If you think that you're trying so hard to be nice, but also feel really overwhelmed, resentful, guilty, stressed or anxious, then there's a good chance that the ways you are being 'nice' need to change. In this talk, I'll show you ways you are being too nice that are not good for you, or really anyone else.

 In this talk, I dive into a self-assessment to help you determine for sure whether or not your are struggling with codependency. This quiz is designed to help you identify how codependency is affecting your daily life and relationships. Codependency can show up in various subtle ways—whether it's prioritizing others' needs over your own, feeling guilty for setting boundaries, or struggling with your sense of self outside of roles like being a partner or friend. As we walk through this quiz, you'll explore common experiences such as people-pleasing, fear of being alone, and self-sacrifice. [...]

 In this talk we dive into the connection between attachment styles and codependency. Attachment styles describe how we emotionally bond with others, often shaped by our early experiences with caregivers. However, when these attachment patterns become maladaptive, they can lead to codependent behaviours, creating unhealthy dynamics in relationships. In codependency, one person may rely heavily on the other for approval, validation, or emotional support—often rooted in insecure attachment formed in childhood. Today, we’ll go through a self-test with key questions to help you identify if you're experiencing codependent behaviours, such as struggling with boundaries, [...]

 You're going to learn how to have healthier, more fulfilling relationships by understanding the four attachment styles here in my latest YouTube talk. In this in-depth discussion, I explore the four key attachment styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant (also known as Disorganized), and how each one uniquely influences the way we connect with others. I’ll guide you through their defining characteristics, and the ways they impact our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in relationships — whether in love, friendship, or even at work. Are you wondering why you always seem to end up in [...]