Deflection is one of the most subtle forms of emotional manipulation — and most people don’t even realize it’s happening.
You bring up something that hurt you… and suddenly the conversation becomes about your tone, your reaction, or how you’re “the problem.” If that dynamic feels familiar, you’re not alone — and you’re not imagining it.
In this video, we break down:
• what deflection actually is
• why emotionally immature people use it (often without realizing)
• common phrases that signal blame-shifting
• how deflection derails accountability
• and how you can stay steady, clear, and grounded instead of getting pulled into the loop
If you grew up around people who couldn’t take responsibility, it makes perfect sense that this kind of manipulation feels confusing or destabilizing now. But once you understand the pattern, you can stop absorbing it — and start responding from your grounded adult self.