Have you ever brought something up in a calm, honest, reasonable way… and within seconds they get upset, you become the problem, and somehow you’re apologizing for something they did?
If you’ve ever thought:
• “Did I say something wrong?”
• “Why do I feel like the bad guy for being honest?”
• “Why do I feel like I’m losing my mind?”
You’re not imagining it — and you’re not alone. In today’s video, we’re breaking down why emotionally immature people get so defensive, even when you approach them gently.
You’ll learn:
✔ why defensiveness is a nervous system reaction, not a communication issue
✔ the core beliefs that make emotionally immature people react like they’re being attacked
✔ the 6 defensive patterns to watch out for (blame-flipping, minimizing, shutting down, counterattacking, etc.)
✔ how to protect your power and stay grounded so you don’t get pulled into chaos
✔ how to bring things up without losing yourself or feeling like the bad guy
This video is for anyone who has struggled to communicate with someone who reacts with defensiveness, denial, blame, or emotional immaturity — whether that’s a partner, parent, sibling, coworker, or friend.