Have you ever been in a tense conversation and suddenly your mind goes blank? Your chest tightens. Your throat closes. You can’t find the words — and later, you replay everything you wish you’d said. Most people think this means they’re bad at communication. It doesn’t. It means your nervous system took over and put you into the freeze response. In this video, I explain:
- Why your brain shuts down during conflict
- What the freeze response actually is (and why it’s not weakness)
- Why “just speak up” doesn’t work when you’re overwhelmed
- How early experiences wire this response
Gentle, practical ways to start unfreezing in the moment If you’re thoughtful, sensitive, emotionally aware — and still find yourself freezing under pressure — there is nothing wrong with you. This is a biological stress response, and once you understand it, it becomes much easier to work with.