Sexual boundaries are your right to have – even in a consensual sexual relationship. You get to decide what you are and are not comfortable with sexually, what feels good and what doesn’t, what you’re want and what you don’t want, and you get to communicate all of those things anytime.
You can also decide you are not comfortable with a sexual act at one point, and then decide later on that you are. You can also say you are okay with a sexual act, and then decide after that you are not. As you can see, boundaries in consensual sexual relationships are important to have.
Also, and perhaps more obviously, they are important to have in non-sexual relationships. No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable with their gaze, their words, their gestures or their actions, and it is your right to set those boundaries with them and communicate clearly where your boundaries are – even you speaking up makes them uncomfortable. In this talk, I’m going to teach you how.