There’s a piece of self-help advice out there that comes across as a motivational and inspirational self-help tip on the surface, but has a really harmful if not dangerous message underneath it. Sometimes it’s said to help people get better self-esteem or to feel good about themselves, but it can often have the exact opposite effect.

In this episode of Good for Me TV, I talk about what this harmful message is and why it can cause a whole lot of shame and self-rejection – which is the last thing any of us needs.