I’ve been a therapist for 6 years now. Whoa, 6 years? How did that happen??
And I have to tell you that in the 6 years of doing this work and from the hundreds of men and women I have worked with I have come across 3 people whom I did not enjoy working with.
One was a sociopath and was unable to connect with his emotions making it very difficult to make any progress in our work (needless to say, that counselling relationship did not last long).
One was a women who could not bring herself to be honest with me – and was not quite ready for therapy.
And one refused to say anything unkind about anyone (which made it impossible to dig in to her true feelings – also not quite ready for therapy).
But despite those 3 exceptions, one of the BEST parts about my job is that on a daily basis I am blessed with the total honour and privilege to see the inside track of the men and women who enter in to my office space or meet with me on skype. I get to see what makes them tick, what they are really thinking, and who they really are.
I see their realness. I see them deep down. I am privy to the inner workings of their souls.
And do you know what? Without fail, what I have learned and have had proven hundreds of times over, is that who people are when they are their true selves is really beautiful and incredible.
When they are in a safe place and put aside all of the masks, the personas, the overcompensations, the self-consciousness, the weird things we do, and the dysfunctional ways we act when we think we need to be someone or something we’re not in order to be worthy of love and acceptance, when people are who they really are under all that crap is absolutely amazing. And I do not say that lightly.
But the part that pisses me off most about my job is that they don’t get to sit in my chair. Most of them don’t get to see what I see. Most of them don’t get to observe the beauty and depth and brilliance that I do. And that makes me mad.
It pisses me off that, because of the hurt, pain, trauma or upset that has come in and wreaked a bunch of havoc in their lives and on their self-perception, they are unable to see themselves from my vantage point.
At least not at the beginning. Not until we do the work to clean up the crap and that’s holding them back and keeping them blind to their beauty and greatness.
And just so YOU know:
Not believing you are worthy has nothing to do with the fact that you are.
If you’d like to work with me 1:1 I do in-person sessions from my office in downtown Vancouver, or virtually to any where in the world via SKYPE.