Counselling for Individuals

Counselling and Psychotherapy Services in Downtown Vancouver

Julia is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC #3947) and holds a Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology

 

I specialize in working with men and women struggling with and looking to move through:
  • Anxiety and Depression
  • Self-Esteem Struggles
  • Stress – Any and All Types
  • Relationship Concerns and Enhancement
  • Feeling Lonely, Isolated, or Disconnected
  • Grief and Loss
  • Addiction Issues, and Support for the Loved Ones Affected
  • Childhood Abuse and Neglect
  • Communication Challenges, Boundary Setting, and Assertiveness
  • Career and Life Transitions and Decisions
  • Personal Growth and Self-Awareness
In my experience as a clinical counsellor I  have helped many people grow and become:
  • Happier
  • More Self-Confident
  • Peaceful and Balanced
  • Better Connected to Themselves and Others
  • More Accepting of Themselves and Others
  • Empowered and Courageous
  • More satisfied with life

In my practice the clients I work with often start to feel better and notice positive changes in their mood and outlook on life, themselves, and their relationships quite quickly. My therapeutic approach is designed to achieve lasting results in as short a time as possible. My goal is to help people challenge the thoughts, words, and behaviours that often get them stuck feeling frustrated, discouraged, upset, sad, worried, or anxious.

Sometimes people come for counselling and they’re not just sure of the precise reason or specific problem – they just know that things don’t feel quite right – they may feel stressed, sad, anxious, depressed, lonely or they simply want more for themselves, their relationships, and their lives.

You don’t have to have a specific reason, or a major problem to come to counselling. Coming to figure out what’s off and working together to get things on is reason enough.

 *Counselling fees for a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) may qualify for reimbursement with some Extended Health Benefits Plans.

**Counselling fees may also be filed in your personal taxes under “Medical Expenses.”

Recent Posts

Why People Treat Us the Way they Do.

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There’s an idea out there in the psychology world that we create, to a large extent, how people treat us. This is a big one that I’ve recently been finding myself thinking and philosophizing about more than usual. Now obviously if we are rude and mean to someone most likely they will respond to us with anger or resentment… nothing profound there. And, sometimes bosses, coworkers, friends, loved ones, and even complete strangers will be overtly rude to us for no apparent reason… I’m not saying we necessarily caused them to treat us in this way… sometimes people are just having bad days and they decide to take it out on the next innocent person who unknowingly crosses their path.

I’m talking here about something a little more subtle and below the surface where there is always so much more going on. I’m talking about things like being talked down to by our partners; like feeling as though we’re always the one taking responsibility for coming up with ‘the plan’ with our friends; like we don’t get included in social get togethers at work or in our personal lives very often; Like our partners don’t trust us to make good decisions… I could go on but I think you get the point.

People don’t treat us the way we want them to.

It’s kind of a hard and painful concept to really look at and reflect on. Could it really be true that I’m largely responsible for setting up how others treat me? Perhaps, and often most unintentionally, but the truth is that we play a pretty major role in shaping how others approach us… especially those with whom we have closer relationships.

Think about this: Are there certain friends who you would never cancel plans on, but would on others? Have there been bosses that you find you want to impress and please and others you don’t really care to? Are there certain people who you would call the day off to make plans and others you only plan with a week or two in advance? Are there some family members who you feel you can be straightforward and honest with and others you often skirt around or avoid the issue with? Are there some friends you trust with your most personal secrets and others you would never go to in confidence?

What have they done to influence how you approach them?

This idea can be really challenging, or even upsetting for some – especially if we often find ourselves being treated poorly in our relationships and instead of then blaming others for their wrong doings and pointing the finger 100% outwards, we might have to take some pretty major responsibility and look inward, or at least partly inward and share some of the onus.

The good, if not GREAT news is that we are NOT helpless victims.

If we have the ability to play a major role in how others treat us for worse, then we can recast those roles and create opportunities for others to treat us how we actually want to be treated!

I’m not saying it’s easy, or that we will always be successful with every attempt, but we do actually have a lot more control then we might think.

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