When you start setting boundaries, you're going to get pushback and your boundaries are going to bring out the emotional maturity of those closest to you. But that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong or that you should stop setting boundaries. In fact, it usually means you're doing something right. Here's the kind of pushback you'll likely get when you set a boundary with family, and what to do about it when you do.
You may be sabotaging yourself, your happiness, your success, and your relationships without even knowing it. We all have subconscious habits, beliefs, and patterns that we're doing that are keeping us stuck, holding us back, and leaving us feeling frustrated and confused. Here I teach you 3 very common self-sabotage habits you may be doing and what to do about them so you can stop sabotaging yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_5zdPwvRap4 Taking on and absorbing other people's problems can make you think that it means you really care about them, but it's actually not entirely true and is a form of codependency that can be harmful to both you and your relationships. Here I talk about how to stop absorbing other people's problems and alternate ways to show you care.
What do you want for yourself or for your life this year? How will you take massive action in 2020 to get the life you want? How will you reset your life and get where and what you want this year? In this video, I walk you through a powerful but simple way to reach your goals. This is how to get where you want in life and how to get to your goals faster.
Most of the things we're doing to boost our self-esteem are completely wrong. We tend to focus on external things like changing our career or changing the way we look to in order to increase our self-esteem but that's not the way it works. Whenever we make changes on the outside to solve issues on the inside we set ourselves up for failure. This is not the key to confidence or how we build self-esteem.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ojsNGLV37E4 If your brain has been feeling out of control lately and you've been overthinking a lot and you want to learn how to stop overthinking - this talk is for you. Here we're talking about 5 steps to get out of your head so you can feel calmer and in charge of your mind and emotions. These strategies based on CBT, radical acceptance, and mindfulness will also help if you've been struggling with either anxiety or depression.
Whether you're worrying about something that could happen in the future or stressing about something that happened in the past, overthinking is distracting and draining. On a deeper level, it's a form of self-sabotage, and on a more surface level, we do it to try and protect ourselves from vulnerability.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PGkbR7T-Vh0 The biggest thing that holds any of us back is our own minds - specifically, the thoughts our minds think and our willingness to believe them. When you become aware of your thoughts and learn how to manage them so they can stop controlling you, and thereby stop overthinking so much, your life will open up to so much more.
How do you handle intense emotions when you get triggered? It's not always easy to take a step back and control your emotions when the more intense ones show up. So here we're going to talk about what to do when you're emotionally triggered so you can build your emotional intelligence and feel more confident and in charge of your reactions in any situation.
The Bad News: As humans, we are resistant to change. The Good News: We are also one of the most adaptable creatures on the planet. We don’t do well with an extreme change that happens all at once but we really do well with small, incremental changes one little bit at a time. In today’s episode of GoodForMeTV, we are going to talk about 7 simple habits that you can start working on a little bit right now that are going to change your life.
Self-sabotage is something a lot of us are doing without even knowing it. But self-sabotage shows up in small, everyday things with think or do without even realizing it. In this video, I show you 34 signs of self-sabotage so you can become aware of any you're doing and work to stop doing them. If you're feeling stuck, frustrated, and not getting what or where you want in life, chances are you're sabotaging yourself.
A lot of us struggle with guilt. It is a complex topic and can be muddled to a lot of things like shame and remorse. In today’s talk, I'm going to teach you the difference between guilt, shame, and remorse, how we often get guilt and shame mixed up, and why this is a major problem. I'm going to teach you how to understand guilt, how to deal with guilt, how to let go of guilt, and how to stop using guilt, because the truth is, it's a sneaky form of manipulation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Av29aUScwI You're not a failure. You might think that you're failing yourself because you haven't always gotten the results you want that you are, but you're not. Here I'm going to teach you both how to stop feeling like a failure and how to succeed at your goals. This talk will give you the motivation to keep going when you feel like giving up.
It is my commitment to you that nothing I post online is going to be fear-mongering or contribute to any hysteria or anxiety about what is happening during this global coronavirus pandemic. My goal is to create and provide a space for you that is grounding, safe and helpful. In this talk, we're going to take a step back, and learn tools to stay calmer and grounded when all our brains want to do is panic and freak out over coronavirus. I'm going to teach you how to cope better and feel better when everything [...]
We're all feeling a lot of emotions right now, and our brains are having a hard time making sense of what's going on in the world. Some are feeling anxious about the coronavirus and the impact it's going to have on us directly, how it's going to impact the economy or our jobs. And some are feeling lonely and disconnected because of social distancing and social isolation. Coping with the Coronavirus outbreak isn't easy for most of us, and I'm going to teach you some tools to help you cope with the Corona Crisis better.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=US3e9IhB1Ss You might often wonder to yourself "why am I unhappy? Things in my life seem okay, so what's going on?" There are things that your brain is doing without you being aware of it that are making you unhappy, and here we're going to talk about the 6 main ones. This talk goes deeper into our psyche, so be sure to stay tuned till the end to get some deep shifts.
When things are uncertain, we usually default to either fear or anger and it's because the human brain hates uncertainty. Whether it's uncertainty about a global pandemic or about a meeting with your boss - when things are uncertain, our brain tries to protect us by imagining the worse case scenario - whether it's actually helpful or not. In today’s episode of Good For Me TV, I teach you 6 key mindset shifts that are going to calm your anxiety both during this coronavirus pandemic, and they are also perspective shifts you can apply to [...]
There is a lot of uncertainty happening in the world right now - for all of us. And needless to say, it can be really stressful and anxiety-provoking. It's tough to know how to deal with uncertainty and it requires a kind of mental strength that has nothing to do with toughening it out. In fact, it's the exact opposite. How mentally strong people deal with uncertainty might surprise you, and I'm going to teach you how they do it here now.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBDChIDIxGI You may be struggling with anxiety without knowing it because you don't see yourself as the typical person who appears anxious on the outside. You may be struggling with something called High Functioning Anxiety. Here are 10 high-functioning anxiety symptoms that will give you more insight so you can seek out effective ways to help you overcome anxiety.
We're going to talk about grief. Not the grief of losing a loved one, but the grief of losing something every single one of us has lost in the last month - our plans of how we thought our lives were going to go for at least the first half of this year. And although it may not be as serious as losing a loved one, it still hurts and it's still hard and our brains may be having a hard time with it- and that's okay. We're also going to talk about how move [...]
Being around people who tend to be more negative can be challenging. Let's face it - it can be downright annoying. But there is something we can do about it that doesn't involve cutting them off completely. I'm going to teach you empowering ways to deal with negative people - or at least those people who tend to be more negative than we'd prefer.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YLqHGu7U9Ag There are those who have an internal locus of control and those with an external locus of control. When you understand and implement the locus rule it will show you how to change your life and be happier, have more fun and be more fulfilled in life.
This talk on my channel, @Julia Kristina Counselling, is about the difference between being an empath and being co-dependent. Although two can be related, someone who experiences codependency isn't necessarily someone who is more empathic and vice versa. Here we're going to talk about the key difference between being and empath and being codependent and what if you experience both, what will help you be a caring, sensitive person without the struggles that come with relating to others in a co-dependent way.
Although it often feels better to have a positive mindset vs a negative one, there is a dark side to trying to think, be and act positive all the time. Being too positive can make you feel worse if it's done in order to repress, deny or avoid other feelings may need to be experienced, and there is a danger in being too positive because part of being human means it's also okay to sometimes feel awful.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8jfC1bt1fg Catastrophizing - i.e. expecting things to go bad, is a type of cognitive distortion that can lead to all kinds of anxious and depressed feelings. In this video, I teach some CBT tools to help you stop this thought error and start thinking in ways the will make you feel a lot better.
Join me for this life changing talk on Ways to Build Resilience with one of the 10 most influential psychologists of our time, one of the creators of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and a brilliant, world changing mind, Dr. Don Meichenbaum. Here are the Free Resources Dr. Meichenbaum mentioned in the interview: The Roadmap to Resilience: https://roadmaptoresilience.wordpress.com/ The Melissa Institute: https://melissainstitute.org/covid-19/
Both social anxiety and feeling socially awkward can be frustrating when all we want is to feel comfortable being ourselves no matter where we are or who we're with. The catch 22 is, the more we try to stop coming across as socially awkward or socially anxious, the more of them we become because we're trying too hard to be someone we're not. In this talk I share with you several mindset shifts to help you feel more confident in who you are right now, and worry less about what other people may be thinking [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8oIqEihm9k Here are 5 effective conflict resolution techniques. Conflict is a part of life and can't always be, and shouldn't always be avoided. Although conflict is often uncomfortable, learning how to manage conflict, and manage ourselves within it will make it a lot easier to deal with. The next time you're not seeing eye to eye with someone - instead of blaming, getting defensive, or getting angry and worked up - try some of these strategies.
Many of us went through difficult or painful things in our childhood that we may not realize have had a negative impact on us as adults. Although these weren't necessarily severely traumatic experiences, there are still many ways that your childhood affects your lifestyle and ways your childhood is affecting you now. These harmful experiences in childhood can lead to thing like self-abandonment, emotional enmeshment, people pleasing, being emotional disconnected from yourself or others, identity struggles, or unhealthy relationship patterns... to name a few. And here we're going to learn what some of those experiences [...]
We all have an ego - and if left unchecked, it will get in our way and hold us back. Many people have asked me what the ego is, how to know if your ego is running your life even if you're not full of yourself. In this talk I teach about what the ego is, how it shows up and how to start doing ego work.