Do you often feel like people zone out or seem completely uninterested in what you're saying? Do you often feel like you're not really being listened to? Are you confused why people ignore you so much? But what if it's because of something you may be doing? Having good and healthy relationships where we feel valued, seen and heard does contribute a great deal to our happiness, but when we're being ignored too much it has both a negative impact on our relationships, and on how we think and feel about ourselves. This is [...]
Do you ever feel really anxious or full of panic? And have you noticed that the harder you try to tell yourself to stop getting so worked up and just calm down, the more upset, anxious or panicked you get? Well, there's a good reason for that (and no, it's not because you're messed up or broken). It's because when you are feeling really anxious your brain is in fight or flight mode. You are literally getting ready to handle a potentially threatening situation and your brain and body are going into a visceral [...]
Resentment can be a tough one because more often than not, the person we are bitter and resentful toward has no idea we resent them, but it causes us a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering. We usually feel resentment when someone is not meeting an expectation we have, or is not giving us the amount of consideration, care or attention that we expect them to. So what do we do? Have zero expectations ever so no one can disappoint us and we never be bitter or resentful? No, that's not the answer either, [...]
Chronic stress is on the rise - with one report saying that 50% of Americans believe they will never feel stress free ever again. So, why is it that people are more stressed out than ever, and what are the main things people are stressed about? Is there anything we can do to reduce stress and feel stress free again? The answer is yes! And it this talk I'm going to share with you the 4 things that are causing you the most stress and a robust list of things you can start doing [...]
You know those times when you are feeling emotionally all out of sorts and can’t figure out why? You feel like you could easily fall apart at the drop of a pin or bite the next person's head off who looks at you sideways, but you can't think of what happened to cause your emotions to be right up at the surface and ready to spill right over. Well, there may be very good reason for you to be feeling this way. Actually there may be 1 of 5 good reasons for you to [...]
If you are deep in difficult feelings right now, but nothing you are doing is helping you feel better, this is an exercise for you. It will not make you feel immediately amazing, but it will create radical acceptance about what you are going through, and ease the suffering caused by either resisting what you are feeling, or trying to force yourself through it before you are actually ready.
When talking about to the kind of anxiety that is rooted in our anxiety provoking thoughts, this type of anxiety comes about because of 2 things coming together - an Anxiety Equation, if you will. You must experience both of these things in order to feel anxious. In this video, I talk about what these 2 parts of the Anxiety Equation are, and what we can do to start intervening and turning them around so that we can cope with anxiety and feel less anxious. And the best part is, we only really have [...]
Have you ever felt like you missed the day in school where they were teaching people how be awesome at life? Where they taught how to handle whatever life had for you with grace and ease? Or maybe you felt like you missed the day in school where they were teaching people how to be comfortable and confident with themselves no matter what. I'm guessing it sometimes feels like everyone else has it all figured out, and you're left on the sidelines wondering how you missed out. Have you ever felt emotionally out of [...]
Fidget spinners --- they are all the rage right now. But what are fidget spinners anyway? Maybe you know all about them, or maybe you’ve recently heard about them for the first time and want to know more. Did you know that fidget spinners help with anxiety and with stress also? But how do fidget spinners help with anxiety and stress you might be wondering? Well, there are actually 2 major, research proven ways the help: they can be helpful for people who tend to be more jittery and fidgety when they are feeling [...]
If you ever get stuck in overthinking a situation or struggling with intrusive thoughts this video is going to help you create space between you and your thoughts using the skill of cognitive diffusion. Using this skill is going to allow you to see beyond your thoughts instead of getting stuck in whichever one happens to pop into your brain. Intrusive thoughts can be confusing, disturbing or painful and they can make you think there's something deeply wrong with you or that you are losing your mind - but neither of those things are [...]
Often, when we are feeling triggered by something we immediately start to feel really worked up, ramped up, or keyed up and often can’t think clearly or access the rational thoughts that would help get us through the upsetting situation in a calm, balanced and reasonable way. So what do we do? Before we have any hope of getting through the emotional sh*t storm with as much integrity and as little shame or guilt as possible, it's important we first take a few minutes to do something simple, yet productive to take the emotional [...]
When you don't deal with your grief or when you don't deal with your loss, the pain from it can build up inside you and without having an outlet to process what you're going through, it can build up inside you and then come out in destructive ways. Each individual grieves differently, and there is no one set linear path to so, but there is a big difference between dealing with what you're going through and trying to avoid it at all cost. Here we're going to talk about 5 signs that you're not [...]
Being a happier person doesn't have to be hard - and it doesn't have to involve hours of affirmations or always trying to look on the bright side. There are simple things you can do everyday that only take about 5 minutes, but will help you feel happier, more grounded and at peace. These are 7 of those daily habits that are backed by research and they carry a big bang for their little buck.
I have a special treat for you today on Good for Me TV! I am being joined by my friend and fellow YouTuber, LikeKristen. Kristen is a powerhouse peer mental health YouTuber who shares on her channel about mental health advocacy, awareness, and recovery. In this video, Kristen shares openly and vulnerably about her up and down struggle with depression over the years. She also talks about what it’s like to be someone who struggles with depression, what’s really going on inside her when she's in a depressive episode, what she doesn’t find helpful [...]
Decision making is an essential part of being human - but that doesn't mean that making hard or big decisions is always easy - especially when we don't know exactly what we should do. The good news is, there are a few important ways of seeing the decision you're trying to make in a new light that will help you make the decision when you don't know what to do, and here I teach them to you.
Learned helplessness is when someone can't seem to find resolutions to difficult situations — even when a solution is possible. People that struggle with learned helplessness tend to complain a lot, feel overwhelmed and often believe they are incapable of making any positive difference in their circumstances or their lives. In this talk I outline what learned helplessness looks like in everyday life so you can see if this is something that is holding you back. Then I teach you the 3 P's of learned optimism so you can start to feel more hopeful and [...]
I’m guessing you’re probably getting pretty sick of hearing about all the foods that are evil and bad that you should be eliminating from your diet. And doesn’t it often feel that there is so much contradictory advice out there about what foods are terrible and which are amazing? In this episode of Good for Me TV, we will be talking about what foods to add to our diet (instead of focusing on what to eliminate) that have been shown to specifically help our mental health and well-being. These foods have also been shown [...]
Infantilization is when an adult is being treated like a child, even though nothing about their mental, physical, social, or intellectual wellbeing requires such treatment. It can often happen with highly controlling parents, or a narcissistic parent who continues to believe that they are superior in knowledge, intellect and ability than their fully functioning, adult child/children. Without knowing it, these adult children can also be participating in this unhelpful dynamic by not adequately self-differentiating in their adult life. This dynamic is also a sign of a codependent/narcissistic dynamic in a relationship where each person [...]
Not taking things personally is no easy undertaking. And all of us do take things personally at least some of the time. But the good news is we can get better at not taking things so personally with practice, and by working with our automatic negative thoughts. And even if we never completely stop taking things personally, we can definitely learn how to become more resilient so that when we do get knocked down, we know how to get back up as quickly as possible.
“We have two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we speak.” - First Nations Wisdom Do you ever wonder what it takes so become a great listener? You know, the type of person people really open up to and feel completely comfortable being open, honest and real with. The type of person we all value and appreciate to the nth degree and wonder what it is about them that makes them so easy to talk to? Well, you don't have to worry any more. In this video I [...]
Healthy boundaries are not only essential for relationships, they are also central to our mental health. In this video, I describe what it likely stopping you from setting good boundaries. Hint: it has to do with people pleasing. If you want to know how to improve your relationships, stop feeling taken for granted, be able to say no, stop feeling resentful and take back your true freedom to set and stick with your boundaries then this talk is outlines an essential skill for parents, partners, co-workers and friends.
Anyone who thinks counseling is for weak people has never been to counseling. It is not easy to look at ourselves, to have honest conversations about ourselves, to be real and to not hide. In today's video, we will talk about several reasons why your loved one may be reluctant to go to therapy. And I can almost guarantee, it's not because they are trying to be difficult. Enjoy!
Yes, there are the common symptoms of anxiety most of us are familiar with: a pounding heart, feeling short of breath, having tightness in the chest, sweating or having clammy hands, but there are also some really common symptoms many people experience, but don't realize are actually rooted in anxiety. And once you understand what is at the root of your struggles, you have a much better chance of being able to work through things. In this video I talk about 11 common, but less known symptoms of anxiety. I hope you find it [...]
Do you wonder whether you were raised by emotionally immature parents? If you were, then it's likely had an impact on your mental or emotional wellbeing as an adult now. Here I talk about specifically what emotionally immature parenting looks like and give you really specific examples so that you can get more clarity about whether or not you had emotionally immature parents.
Why do we waste so much of the precious time we have worrying about or overthinking about things that really don't matter? I think most of us wish we could just stop, but don't always know how. What to do, what to do! In this video today, we are going to talk about three steps to stop wasting our time on things that don’t matter, so we can focus more of our time and energy on being productive, staying motivated and keep focused on the things that do.
If you were a parentified child it means that you had to take on one or more signficant roles of a parent and as a result missed out on important parts. of your childhood and some of your developmental stages were likely compromised. In this talk I teach you about the 2 types of parentification and 5 key signs that you went through parentification as a child.
We all get angry, pissed off and emotionally triggered - at least sometimes, that's normal. Having an emotion in and of itself is not necessarily good or bad, but what we do and how we react or respond to our emotional triggers can be used for good or evil. Often, when we feel triggered, we do things or say things that we end up feeling guilty about later. So, what do we do about this? How do we deal with this? How do we get ourselves into a space of responding in a healthy [...]
Worry is something that our brains like to do because on a subconscious level we believe the worry is helping us in some way. On a conscious level, being in a frequent state from worry not only feels terrible, it also takes us away from being more present, happy and at peace. In this talk I teach you 4 research backed ways to stop worry in it's tracks so you can feel more calm and grounded no matter whomever or what ever is going on around, or inside of you.
Do you have a loved one who struggles with anxiety? Are you at a loss for what to say, what to do, and how to be helpful to them? You really want to be there for them, but you often find that your efforts are not as helpful as you were hoping they'd be. Here I'm going to explain more about what is going on with someone when they are struggling with anxiety, and some things you can do or say that are more helpful or useful.
All behaviour is purposeful - and when we don’t do anything to intervene when we start to worry, we are choosing to continue worrying. But we don't get stuck or paralyzed by worry because there's something wrong with you, it's because on a subconscious level, staying in a pattern of worry serves a few purposes. Here I teach what these purposes are, and how developing this awareness and insight is the first step to breaking the worry cycle.