Picking Up the Pieces

By | 2017-05-21T16:06:06+00:00 June 24th, 2011|Psychotherapy|

When we make choices that are obviously destructive and harmful – no matter how well we can justify them in the moment - they are more than likely to harm our bodies, our minds, and often our relationships, but also our psyches and our spirits. Bodies tend to heal more quickly, whereas the psychological repercussions of our choices are often longer lasting. It’s amazing to me how we can make a split second decision, and then be left to pick up the pieces for weeks, or months, or sometimes even years. Those who have used [...]

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The Vancouver Riot: Sense of the Senseless?

By | 2017-05-21T16:06:06+00:00 June 16th, 2011|General|

Here in Vancouver we are trying to wrap our heads around and understand what happened last night downtown Vancouver after the Stanley Cup Final hockey game. To say that it is absolutely disturbing, abhorrent, and shameful would be a serious understatement. What did happen? And why did it happen? I find myself thinking about our search for significance. Why would people set fire to cop cars and then proceed to jump on top of them and throw their hands up in the air in triumph? Why would people stand out in front of a crowd and hurl hard objects, taunts, [...]

Let Them Eat Cake!

By | 2017-05-21T16:06:06+00:00 June 10th, 2011|General|

Recently I came across some psychology literature that caught my attention. The author, well-known psychiatrist Scott M. Peck, points out that one of the most important skills we can teach our children, and also practice as adults is delaying gratification.  By getting the pain over with first we set ourselves up to experience greater and more satisfying pleasure (Peck, 1978). He also talks about instilling this skill into our children as early as possible is imperative - one of the most important things we can teach them. In the Marshmallow Study (hilarious) we can see how even children who are [...]

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CCPA Annual National Conference 2011

By | 2017-05-21T16:06:06+00:00 June 3rd, 2011|General|

On May 19th I had the honour of facilitating a professional workshop at the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy's (CCPA) Annual National Conference in Ottawa. The presentation was on the topic of  Bringing Religion and Spirituality into Therapy for both spiritual/religious and non-spiritual/religious therapists. I had a really wonderful time sharing my research and experience with a very engaged and intelligent audience, and I was really moved by the very thoughtful and meaningful questions and comments that were offered. My only regret is that we didn't have more time to discuss our thoughts and ideas with one another... I think if given [...]

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