Trust is the foundation of our healthy relationships with others and self-trust is the foundation of our healthy relationships with others. Self-Trust is also the foundation of a deep sense of confidence within ourselves and both when we believe in ourselves it builds self-trust and as we build self-trust it allows us to more easily believe in ourselves. Have I convinced you how important self-trust is yet?
There are several goals many people set and then get discouraged because not matter how hard they try they can't seem to reach their goals. But the truth is, the reason people are not reaching these goals is because they are goals you can't reach. Here I'll tell you what they are so you can save yourself the frustration and the self-blame.
You might be keeping yourself stuck by doing too much and here we're going to talk about the cognitive science backed reasons why this happens and what to do about it so you can grow or heal or thrive - or all of the above. And it all starts when you stop trying so hard.
There are little things you may be unconsciously or out of habit that are killing your happiness. Some of them you may not know you're doing, and some you may not realize that you don't have to keep doing. Being intentional about working on each of these will make you happier.
Boundaries are about much more than just learning to say no to others. We also need to have healthy boundaries within ourselves. Here I talk about 7 different boundaries you need to set in your life for your health, happiness and sanity.
You may be repeating past mistakes and getting stuck in the same pattern over and over again because you keep reacting to the present as if it's the past, which ultimately keeps you stuck in the past. In this video I'm going to teach you how to stop living in the past and reacting to the past so you can have the present and future you want most.
It's hard to always know if we are acting out of ego or out of our true self. But it's important we learn the difference because when we act out of ego, we never feel truly satisfied because the ego seeks from the outside to overcompensate for a lack on the inside - which, it can never truly do. Watch this video here on my channel @Julia Kristina Counselling a few times and really take it in, and learning how to act out of your true self vs. your ego self will transform how you [...]
When things get hard it's easy to get discouraged and then give up - but giving up won't help you move forward or have what you want most in life. Here are 5 things you need to know when you're feeling discouraged that will help you stay focused, motivated and moving forward toward the things that are important to you.
Not letting other people control your emotions means one little thing done or said by someone else doesn't have the power to ruin your whole day, or worse, even longer. When you learn how to trust yourself and become in charge of your own mind and emotions you can stop letting people trigger you, you can stop overreacting, and you can stop letting others control your happiness because you are now in charge.
The goal in life isn't to be happy all the time - that's not the point. We need to be able to experience the full spectrum of emotions. But there are things that make us unnecessarily unhappy and take from, instead of add to, our lives. We don't need to be happy all the time to have a full and rich life, but there are things you may be doing that are making you stay unhappy when you don't need to be - here are 6 of them.
Confidence is created by how we think, act and think about how we act. You weren't born confident or insecure - you learned to be And just as being insecure is something you developed, you can engage with specific ways of thinking and showing up in your life what will develop your confidence. Many of these confidence boosters counter-intuitive, and I think you're going to get a lot out of them.
Our human brains like to worry. Some of the worrying is adaptive and for our survival and some of it is not. Much of our worry is not protecting our lives it's preventing our lives and here I teach you some key things to stop worrying about so you can feel less stressed and anxious and more calm, clear and confident.
Apologies are meant for when you've done something wrong and want to take responsibility for or when you have hurt someone and you want to make amends. The issue is, people often apologize for things that aren't wrong, and when you do, it chips away at your self-esteem. Here I'm going to teach you 5 things you should never apologize for.
Why you can't forgive them. Forgiving someone can be really hard. It's hard to forgive when it hurts. Especially if we think that after we forgive them we have to forget what happened and get close to the person again. We think we have to forgive and forget because the saying says so, but we can absolutely forgive and not forget. You can let go of the past without forgetting that it happened and today I'm going to teach you how. #forgiveness #lettinggo #forgive
Becoming emotionally mature is not necessarily something that comes with age - it comes from doing the work. In this video I talk about what emotional maturity is and some key signs that you are emotionally mature, and some areas you might chose to focus on developing more.
I'm going to teach you how to process an emotion so you can both build emotional intelligence and learn how to deal with your emotions better. To take my teaching to the next level and learn how to apply what your learning while getting more tools, support, help and guidance every step of the way: COME AND JOIN THE SHIFT SOCIETY: https://courses.juliakristina.com/shift-society
If you’re human, chances are you’ve felt anxious at some point in your life. And regardless of how much or how often you feel anxious, there are a lot of annoying things that anxiety can make us do that we may not realize are coming from anxiety. In this episode of Good for Me TV I talk about 7 really annoying things that anxiety can make us do, and my tip sheet below "7 Simple Ways to Manage Anxiety" will help get you started on dealing with them.
We all learn ways in which to cope with everything that is thrown at us each day. What works for one person may not work for another. And what has worked in the past, is sometimes not enough in the present. Have you been looking for new ways to shift your mood? Have you tried exploring your creativity? I know, I know, “’creativity?’ Ha! I’m not an artist. NOPE, that’s definitely not for me!” Well actually, you may consider yourself a “non-creative” but if you can put pen to paper or [...]
There's one major thing that's getting in the way of you and your motivation, and in this episode of Good for Me TV we're going to talk about exactly what that is and how to get motivated when you don't feel like doing something. Spoiler alert, it's not about trying harder or pumping yourself up more. It's much more simple than that, and this one simple, but transformational mindset shift will make all the difference.
Yes, this one is bordering on obnoxiously positive, I know.. but some days it IS just as simple as deciding on which thought, perspective, idea or story we want to set up camp in. #outofourheads #andintoourlives
How to know if you are being emotionally abused? Abuse - no matter what kind, is always about power and control. But it's not always obvious this is what's happening - especially when it comes to emotional abuse - which is why we are talking about it here in this important video. Emotional abuse is a lot more common and serious than many of us might think because it's not as obvious as other kinds of abuse, and you may not even realize you are being emotionally abused by someone in your life. Here we [...]
This is one of the simplest, most powerful and research backed happiness building exercises that anyone can do. No, it’s not about just being more grateful (although that is a good one). It’s something that can be even more powerful than gratitude... This exercise not only helps to give a serious boost to your happiness and well-being, research shows it also has one of the longest term effects of any happiness boosting exercise or activity that we can do. There are three simple steps to this exercise, and I’m going to walk you through them [...]
Download the PDF HERE: 7 Cognitive Distortions 7 COMMON COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS 1. All or Nothing Thinking: You look at things in absolutes, and extremes. ex: one bad thing happens and suddenly all is doomed. My Example: 2. Mental Filter: You focus only on the negatives and ignore the positives. My Example: 3. Mind Reading: You assume that people are reacting to or thinking about you negatively when there’s no actual proof. My Example: 4. Fortune Telling: You just assume and predict things are going to turn out badly - with no actual proof. My Example: 5. [...]
If you are feeling anxious, overwhelmed, stressed out or ready to lose it for any reason at all, this exercise is for you (it's my favourite one and I use it all the time). It's a quick and easy breathing exercise that is easy to do, simple to remember and is a powerful one for anxiety management, to calm us down, and help us feel more grounded and in control when we are feeling worked up, emotional, or like our head is spinning or our thoughts are swirling. But why do this breathing [...]
This social media thing almost seemed to come out of nowhere. Well, not really, I guess it all kind of started years ago with MySpace. Myspace, do you remember that one? What ever happened to MySpace? I guess they became the Nokia of the social media world...I can’t help but feel sad, for both. But this social media thing, that’s not really a thing, but has pretty much become a way of life. Within a few short years, we've morphed in to a culture of pictures, posts, likes and shares, but none of it came with a rule book [...]
This is a big reason why we get overwhelmed, stressed out, anxious and I talk about how we can start dealing with stress, and how to relieve stress and deal with anxiety by setting boundaries. Did you know many of the biggest signs and causes of stress, and many symptoms of anxiety come from a lack of healthy boundaries in our lives and in our relationships? And we definitely experience some of the biggest effects of that stress and anxiety when we're not protecting our buffer zone. We go a whole lot deeper [...]
Have you ever found yourself ready to pull out your hair because “that person just won’t listen to my advice,” or because “don’t they see how much they are hurting themselves by doing that,” or because “I can’t fathom how someone could be so irresponsible – it’s just too much!” But getting all akimbo and kerfuffled like this is almost totally unnecessary. And we do it because we feel responsible for other peoples' problems. We feel like we have to solve their problem or their life for them. We feel like we can’t possibly let [...]
In this video I talk about what anxiety is, and what one of the most important things we can build within ourselves is to help us overcome excess or unhelpful anxiety. I then teach you a simple mindset strategy you can use anytime you're having thoughts that are making you feel anxious or overwhelmed. Also, make sure you grab my stress management tip sheet below.
Bad habits. Sometimes they are things we don’t even know we’re doing, but are having a negative effect on our self-confidence nonetheless. Now we could go on to hypothesize as where and why and where we picked up these bad habits in the first place, but we’ll save that for another day. For today, let’s just draw our attention to them, and make a concerted effort to get rid of them. Saying sorry all the time. Of course I’m not talking about apologizing if we’ve hurt, offended, inconvenienced, or upset someone (whether intentionally or not), but those [...]
Have you ever convinced yourself not to do that thing that you really need to do, that is good for you, that will help you get closer to your bigger goals, that will give you a deep sense of satisfaction in the end because…. you don’t feel like it right now? And if so, if you do tend to listen to and abide by your feelings in this way, you are making a big mistake. Of course, you are absolutely permitted to feel exactly what it is you are feeling at any given moment on any [...]