I'm going to be honest - loving yourself takes work. It's not as easy as just deciding one day that you're going to do it. What it takes to love yourself is not just about trying to stop feeling bad about yourself, but it requires that you first deal with the mindset blocks, or self-defeating beliefs that are stopping you from being able to do it in the first place. In this video I teach you 3 reasons you still don't love yourself - even though you think you want to, and how to start [...]

Here's a catch 22: there are things you do when you're anxious that make anxiety worse, which then causes you to keep doing these things. In order to make anxiety better, you need to stop doing these things. The good news is, when you stop doing them, you'll not only feel less anxious in the moment but will also then feel less compelled to do them.

Self-love is something most of us want more of, but few of us actually know how to do. Love as a concept is something we're all able to give to others, but have a hard time giving it to ourselves. In this video I teach more deeply on why that is, and teach you one easy way to actually love yourself more, how to boost your self love and how to practice authentic self-love.

 Emotional intelligence is not a valuation of your worth, rather a result of the type of emotional intelligence learning and modelling you had access to. And regardless of where you're at on your emotional intelligence journey being more intentional and aware of the things we think, say or do will help us feel more in charge of our minds, out emotions and our lives - and this, in and of itself will also help build confidence.

It's easy to sit and wonder why you can't make a decision and then get frustrated with yourself for getting stuck in indecision. In this talk on@Julia Kristina Counselling I talk about the real reason you can't make a decision, and how to make it easier for yourself to do it in any situation.

We all have subconscious beliefs that are getting in our way, holding us back and keeping us stuck. These beliefs can often seem like they are true and can lead to self-sabotaging choices and behaviours that keep us stuck. Here I talk about 7 common ones, and how to overcome them so you can feel more calm, confident and more in charge of your mind, emotions and your life.

There are things many of us do everyday without realizing it that kill our confidence. And if we want to boost our confidence we have to be mindful and intentional about what and how we are thinking about ourselves. confidence is not something that just happens, it's something that's built and in this video I'm going to 5 ways you may be damaging your confidence unintentionally and how to turn things around so you can become more confident.

Procrastinating is something most of us do - but if you're blaming yourself for being weak or undisciplined and think that being harder on yourself will help you focus, the exact opposite is true. Here I talk about the 7 main reasons people procrastinate and how to stop procrastinating so you can get focused and do what you need to do.

If you're feeling behind in life and things just aren't where you thought they'd be at this point, or you've struggled with something longer than you thought you would and now feel like you've lost all that time, this message is for you.

Our lack of self-love and self acceptance are at the root of many of our biggest struggles. Which means that once you start loving yourself more, a whole lot of other things will get better in your life too. Here are a list of several things that will improve when you love yourself.

There is a lot going on in the world, and even if your life is not dramatically different right now, your brain is still working hard to try to keep you safe, but it doesn't know exactly what to do which is why it's more tired than usual. In this video I teach you what's going on in your brain right now and why you're likely more stressed, anxious, worn out and less motivated than usual.

Trust is the foundation of our healthy relationships with others and self-trust is the foundation of our healthy relationships with others. Self-Trust is also the foundation of a deep sense of confidence within ourselves and both when we believe in ourselves it builds self-trust and as we build self-trust it allows us to more easily believe in ourselves. Have I convinced you how important self-trust is yet?

There are several goals many people set and then get discouraged because not matter how hard they try they can't seem to reach their goals. But the truth is, the reason people are not reaching these goals is because they are goals you can't reach. Here I'll tell you what they are so you can save yourself the frustration and the self-blame.

You might be keeping yourself stuck by doing too much and here we're going to talk about the cognitive science backed reasons why this happens and what to do about it so you can grow or heal or thrive - or all of the above. And it all starts when you stop trying so hard.

There are little things you may be unconsciously or out of habit that are killing your happiness. Some of them you may not know you're doing, and some you may not realize that you don't have to keep doing. Being intentional about working on each of these will make you happier.

Boundaries are about much more than just learning to say no to others. We also need to have healthy boundaries within ourselves. Here I talk about 7 different boundaries you need to set in your life for your health, happiness and sanity.

You may be repeating past mistakes and getting stuck in the same pattern over and over again because you keep reacting to the present as if it's the past, which ultimately keeps you stuck in the past. In this video I'm going to teach you how to stop living in the past and reacting to the past so you can have the present and future you want most.

It's hard to always know if we are acting out of ego or out of our true self. But it's important we learn the difference because when we act out of ego, we never feel truly satisfied because the ego seeks from the outside to overcompensate for a lack on the inside - which, it can never truly do. Watch this video here on my channel @Julia Kristina Counselling a few times and really take it in, and learning how to act out of your true self vs. your ego self will transform how you [...]

When things get hard it's easy to get discouraged and then give up - but giving up won't help you move forward or have what you want most in life. Here are 5 things you need to know when you're feeling discouraged that will help you stay focused, motivated and moving forward toward the things that are important to you.

Not letting other people control your emotions means one little thing done or said by someone else doesn't have the power to ruin your whole day, or worse, even longer. When you learn how to trust yourself and become in charge of your own mind and emotions you can stop letting people trigger you, you can stop overreacting, and you can stop letting others control your happiness because you are now in charge.

The goal in life isn't to be happy all the time - that's not the point. We need to be able to experience the full spectrum of emotions. But there are things that make us unnecessarily unhappy and take from, instead of add to, our lives. We don't need to be happy all the time to have a full and rich life, but there are things you may be doing that are making you stay unhappy when you don't need to be - here are 6 of them.

Confidence is created by how we think, act and think about how we act. You weren't born confident or insecure - you learned to be And just as being insecure is something you developed, you can engage with specific ways of thinking and showing up in your life what will develop your confidence. Many of these confidence boosters counter-intuitive, and I think you're going to get a lot out of them.

Our human brains like to worry. Some of the worrying is adaptive and for our survival and some of it is not. Much of our worry is not protecting our lives it's preventing our lives and here I teach you some key things to stop worrying about so you can feel less stressed and anxious and more calm, clear and confident.

Apologies are meant for when you've done something wrong and want to take responsibility for or when you have hurt someone and you want to make amends. The issue is, people often apologize for things that aren't wrong, and when you do, it chips away at your self-esteem. Here I'm going to teach you 5 things you should never apologize for.