Do you feel like it's all on you to make sure everyone around you is happy, has their needs met and is taken care of all the time? Do you feel good about it or is it stressing you out, is it getting way too overwhelming or are you feeling taken advantage of? I will tell you something, just this time: Stop being so nice! (It's actually making you miserable). The idea of making everybody else happy all the time and meeting all their needs may sound lovely, but the truth is, it’s causing [...]

 Guilt is a helpful emotion when it's used to deter us from doing something hurtful or harmful to someone else. But it's not a useful emotion when we use guilt to make ourselves feel badly for something we've done that isn't bad. But, we all do it. We all feel guilty for at least a few things that we don't need to feel guilty for, and here are the 13 most common ones.

 We all go through times when we don't feel good enough. When we wonder if we're lovable enough, valuable enough and worthy enough. We all struggle with our self-esteem in this way at least from time to time. Here are several things to remember when you don't feel good enough - and the more you remind yourself of them, the better you're going to feel about yourself and the more your self-confidence will grow.

Not feeling good enough, loveable enough, worthy enough - i.e. Shame - is something we all struggle with at least sometimes. And when we experience shame it can be very debilitating and it can also cause us to act out in unhelpful ways - and that can sabotage our goals, dreams and/or relationships that can make us feel even more shame. Here I teach you 3 life changing ways to move through shame that you can start using today.

 Shame is something all humans deal with - but few of us like to admit it. Not feeling good enough or feeling like there's something fundamentally wrong with you - at least sometimes - happens to everyone. Here I teach how to use emotional intelligence three different ways to start healing from shame.

Guilt from our past can sit in the back of our brains and cause us all kinds of unnecessary pain and discomfort, and it's really hard to let go of guilt when we don't know how to. Here I teach about how to let go of guilt from something you did in your past, and also from something you didn't overtly do, but are still feeling guilty about it.

 Overcoming a fear or phobia can be scary and challenging - especially when you haven't been taught the proper way to do it. Here I teach you a CBT skill for how to deal with a fear or phobia that is getting in your way, creating a lot of anxiety or holding you back, so you can do what you want or need to do without feeling anxious.

Having the strong urge to control other people is something many people struggle with and is rooted in either fear or anxiety. Being too controlling can have a negative impact on both your own mental health and on the health of your relationships. You may not realize the things you're doing regularly are an attempt to control others, so we're going to talk about theme here today because when awareness is the first step toward positive change.

It can be tempting to think that we need people to agree with our choices - even if those choices have no impact on those with whom we are seeking approval. The question is, why do you think you need to justify your decisions and get their approval? Could it be okay for someone else to not agree with our approve of your choices? Here, we dive deeper into this topic.

It does NOT feel good to have people walk all over you, take you for granted, take advantage of you or just generally ask a lot and give little to no appreciation. The truth is, you are letting it happen because you don't know why it's happening or how to make it stop. In today's talk I tell you about why people are walking all over you, and what you can do to make it stop

 We are emotional beings who can sometimes be rational so learning how to be emotionally intelligent is going to make our lives much easier. When we are more emotionally intelligent we get better at not getting caught up in any and every "negative" emotion that comes up, and get better at both understanding ourselves and moving through painful, difficult or uncomfortable emotions. In this talk I teach you how.

One part of the healthy boundary setting process is learning how to set our own boundaries, but it's also about learning how to respect other people's boundaries - which, if you're not used to, can be really difficult at first. Here's what you need to know about other people's boundaries, and how to make sure you are treating their boundaries with respect just as you want them to treat yours the same way.

 What is an emotional boundary and why are they so important for our peace, joy and happiness? Here you're going to learn 6 different emotional boundaries and examples on how to set them in different situations so you can feel less stressed, resentful and overwhelmed, and more calm, confident and happy.

 You may need better boundaries - and I say this because most of us need better, healthier boundaries. Many of our biggest struggles in life are caused by us not setting, and keep our clear, yet kind and firm boundaries. In this talk you'll learn what boundaries you are letting people cross without realizing it, and what to do about it.

We all have thoughts, ideas and beliefs that we have learned throughout our lives that are now holding us back, and keeping us stuck and struggling in our lives. In this talk, I teach you what 10 of these lessons are, and how to start unlearning them now so you can feel happier in your life and have more rich and rewarding relationships with both yourself and others every day.

 It doesn't feel great to compare yourself to others and feel like you don't measure up. it's also really hard on your self-esteem and makes it much more difficult to be comfortable and confident in who you are if you're always thinking you're inferior to others or nothing you do is ever good enough. Here I teach you the key steps to overcome your inferiority complex so you can feel more confident and sure of who you are.

If you struggle with toxic shame - in other words, you feel like you're a bad, flawed, broken or unworthy human at a core level - it's going to make feeling good about yourself and your life near impossible. There are several signs that you are living with toxic shame that I teach you here, and then I will teach you 6 steps to start overcoming debilitating shame.