Infantilization is when an adult is being treated like a child, even though nothing about their mental, physical, social, or intellectual wellbeing requires such treatment. It can often happen with highly controlling parents, or a narcissistic parent who continues to believe that they are superior in knowledge, intellect and ability than their fully functioning, adult child/children. Without knowing it, these adult children can also be participating in this unhelpful dynamic by not adequately self-differentiating in their adult life. This dynamic is also a sign of a codependent/narcissistic dynamic in a relationship where each person [...]
Not taking things personally is no easy undertaking. And all of us do take things personally at least some of the time. But the good news is we can get better at not taking things so personally with practice, and by working with our automatic negative thoughts. And even if we never completely stop taking things personally, we can definitely learn how to become more resilient so that when we do get knocked down, we know how to get back up as quickly as possible.
“We have two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we speak.” - First Nations Wisdom Do you ever wonder what it takes so become a great listener? You know, the type of person people really open up to and feel completely comfortable being open, honest and real with. The type of person we all value and appreciate to the nth degree and wonder what it is about them that makes them so easy to talk to? Well, you don't have to worry any more. In this video I [...]
Healthy boundaries are not only essential for relationships, they are also central to our mental health. In this video, I describe what it likely stopping you from setting good boundaries. Hint: it has to do with people pleasing. If you want to know how to improve your relationships, stop feeling taken for granted, be able to say no, stop feeling resentful and take back your true freedom to set and stick with your boundaries then this talk is outlines an essential skill for parents, partners, co-workers and friends.
Anyone who thinks counseling is for weak people has never been to counseling. It is not easy to look at ourselves, to have honest conversations about ourselves, to be real and to not hide. In today's video, we will talk about several reasons why your loved one may be reluctant to go to therapy. And I can almost guarantee, it's not because they are trying to be difficult. Enjoy!
Yes, there are the common symptoms of anxiety most of us are familiar with: a pounding heart, feeling short of breath, having tightness in the chest, sweating or having clammy hands, but there are also some really common symptoms many people experience, but don't realize are actually rooted in anxiety. And once you understand what is at the root of your struggles, you have a much better chance of being able to work through things. In this video I talk about 11 common, but less known symptoms of anxiety. I hope you find it [...]
Do you wonder whether you were raised by emotionally immature parents? If you were, then it's likely had an impact on your mental or emotional wellbeing as an adult now. Here I talk about specifically what emotionally immature parenting looks like and give you really specific examples so that you can get more clarity about whether or not you had emotionally immature parents.
Why do we waste so much of the precious time we have worrying about or overthinking about things that really don't matter? I think most of us wish we could just stop, but don't always know how. What to do, what to do! In this video today, we are going to talk about three steps to stop wasting our time on things that don’t matter, so we can focus more of our time and energy on being productive, staying motivated and keep focused on the things that do.
If you were a parentified child it means that you had to take on one or more signficant roles of a parent and as a result missed out on important parts. of your childhood and some of your developmental stages were likely compromised. In this talk I teach you about the 2 types of parentification and 5 key signs that you went through parentification as a child.
We all get angry, pissed off and emotionally triggered - at least sometimes, that's normal. Having an emotion in and of itself is not necessarily good or bad, but what we do and how we react or respond to our emotional triggers can be used for good or evil. Often, when we feel triggered, we do things or say things that we end up feeling guilty about later. So, what do we do about this? How do we deal with this? How do we get ourselves into a space of responding in a healthy [...]
Worry is something that our brains like to do because on a subconscious level we believe the worry is helping us in some way. On a conscious level, being in a frequent state from worry not only feels terrible, it also takes us away from being more present, happy and at peace. In this talk I teach you 4 research backed ways to stop worry in it's tracks so you can feel more calm and grounded no matter whomever or what ever is going on around, or inside of you.
Do you have a loved one who struggles with anxiety? Are you at a loss for what to say, what to do, and how to be helpful to them? You really want to be there for them, but you often find that your efforts are not as helpful as you were hoping they'd be. Here I'm going to explain more about what is going on with someone when they are struggling with anxiety, and some things you can do or say that are more helpful or useful.
All behaviour is purposeful - and when we don’t do anything to intervene when we start to worry, we are choosing to continue worrying. But we don't get stuck or paralyzed by worry because there's something wrong with you, it's because on a subconscious level, staying in a pattern of worry serves a few purposes. Here I teach what these purposes are, and how developing this awareness and insight is the first step to breaking the worry cycle.
What is trauma? Why do some people get stuck in it? Why do some people struggle with the aftermath for a long time, while others can go through something traumatic and then move through and heal from it? Trauma is something that impacts a lot more people than many of us realize. Most people have been through something traumatic in their lives, but many don't talk about it because we feel alone, or ashamed or both. But there is research around why some people are able to move through their trauma, and so are [...]
The more we take a situation and let our brains run wild with all or nothing, black and white thoughts, the more emotionally reactive we become. When we think in exaggerated ways by using terms like always, never, terrible, worst, terrible, all the time, nobody, everyone etc. we get ourselves more worked up than we need to be had we practiced thinking with more nuance, and in more accurate and responsible ways. This is a skill to learn, and in this talk I teach it to you.
You know those times when you all of a sudden feel really anxious but you have no idea why? Out of nowhere you start to all anxious, and there is really nothing going on, and you find that you're not even thinking about anything that would bring on any anxiety. What is going on with that? Why does this happen? Why can we feel anxious for no apparent reason? You would be surprised how common this is and how often this comes up for people. In today’s video, we are going to talk about [...]
Because it takes more effort to step back and take responsibility for our part - no more, no less - it's a lot easier to either blame ourselves for things that weren't entirely our faults, or blame others for things that weren't theirs. But blame either way doesn't feel good, and it usually leads to someone feeling terrible, and not a lot of resolution being made. Here's how to stop getting stuck in blame either way, so you can start working towards solutions to problems.
Imposter syndrome, also known as Imposter Phenomenon, or we can just call it “self-doubt on steroids," is an intense form of self-doubt. It's something that is often felt by people when they achieve a certain level of power or success they believe they are not qualified for or good enough for. Here I talk about what Imposter Syndrome is, why it happens, and how to start moving through it and dealing with it.
If you have been feeling lonely, chances are it's because you've been isolating yourself - maybe even unintentionally. Here we talk about what social isolation looks like and some key ways to stop isolating yourself so you can feel more love and connection and less loneliness.
Sometimes we need time to ourselves because we've been feeling overwhelmed and need some quiet time to relax and recover. But at what point does our alone time go from healthy self-care to unhealthy self-isolation? Hint: If you've been feeling lonely, then you've probably crossed over into self-isolation. Here I teach you about why you might be self-isolating, and the key signs to look out for to see if you really are.
There are coping methods we learned as children that helped us get through really difficult things in our childhood. The problem is, we carry many of those same coping methods into adulthood, but they are no longer helpful to us, and are often at the root of what keeps us stuck. Here I teach you what some of those coping methods are, and then show you how to work through them to get yourself unstuck.
Do you ever notice yourself feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or totally at your limit? If you've ever felt this way, then you are in the right place. In this episode of Good For Me TV I'm going to teach you 3 simple, but seriously helpful ways to get ruthless with getting rid of the unnecessary stressors in our lives, so we can be more present, focused and connected to the things and people that matter to us most.
Comparison is something most of us struggle with. We look at something great that someone else has that we don't have and think we need to have it so we can feel good about ourselves and/or our lives. But when we're constantly looking at what others have that we don't, it often makes us feel terrible and not good enough. Here I'll teach you how to break this habit and how to stop comparing yourself to others for GOOD with 3 steps.
Do you ever feel weird, awkward, uncomfortable, anxious, worried, self-conscious when going into social situations or ] even just thinking about going into one? If so, this is social anxiety - and different people experience it to greater or lesser extents. In this video I'm going to teach you about how to deal with social anxiety, how to go through anxiety, and how to not let these feelings of anxiety stop you or prevent you from showing up and doing things that you might actually really want to be doing. So, if you ever [...]
It's often really hard to fall asleep when you're feeling anxious and can't turn your brain off or calm your body. Depression can also interfere with you're ability to stay asleep and your sleep quality, and on top of that, sleep deprivation can make depression and anxiety that much worse. The good news is, you can train your brain to sleep better using these simple strategies.
Self-love is all the rage right now and as obnoxious as it can be when people tell you you just need to "love yourself more," there is some truth to that - if we can't like ourselves it's going to make it pretty darn hard to feel confident and good about who we are. And it also makes it much more likely for us to struggle with things like low self-esteem, happiness, and even finding joy in our lives. Today, I am going to teach you about the most simple and straight-forward way to [...]
Confidence is something that is built one choice at a time, and it is also something that is destroyed one choice at a time. To feel confident in any relationship you have to be able to rely on that person - and the same goes for us. If you want to feel confident in yourself, you have to be able to make intentional and conscious decisions and then follow through on them. Here I teach you how to stop procrastinating or avoiding, and how to follow through.
The holidays are a bit of a mixed bag for most of us. Some things are exciting, lovely, and special, but there are also things that can be challenging, uncomfortable, and painful. And that’s just the truth of it. And because of the chaos, stress or difficult things that can came up whenever there are family gatherings infused with expectations and different personalities, I am going to talk with you about 5 things you can do to save at least some of your sanity over the holidays.
Depression is one of the most common mental health struggles that millions and millions of people deal with each and every day. Depression can impact anyone, and chances are, it has impacted you in some way - by you experiencing depression yourself at some point, or knowing someone who has or is struggling with it now. Medication can be a very helpful way to treat depression, but there are also non-drug remedies for depression that have been shown to be as, and in some cases more, effective than medication. Here are several non-drug treatments [...]
In this episode of Good for Me TV we are talking about sleep. Specifically, some simple tools and strategies you can start using right away to turn your thoughts off at night and start getting a good night sleep. You might be surprised how many among us are struggling with getting a good night sleep. And as more and more research is coming out showing the link between a lack of adequate rest and many physical, mental and emotional issues, we are starting to see just how important getting proper sleep really is. Sleep [...]