Shame is something all humans deal with - but few of us like to admit it. Not feeling good enough or feeling like there's something fundamentally wrong with you - at least sometimes - happens to everyone. Here I teach how to use emotional intelligence three different ways to start healing from shame.
Being grateful - it's not a bad thing, in fact it's an incredible thing! And when done properly can even be life changing. But the way we're typically told to practice gratitude has been shown in the research to not actually be effective for most people. In this episode of Good For Me TV, I’m going to tell why this is and what you can be doing instead that does work a whole lot better (without any extra effort).
Guilt from our past can sit in the back of our brains and cause us all kinds of unnecessary pain and discomfort, and it's really hard to let go of guilt when we don't know how to. Here I teach about how to let go of guilt from something you did in your past, and also from something you didn't overtly do, but are still feeling guilty about it.
Overcoming a fear or phobia can be scary and challenging - especially when you haven't been taught the proper way to do it. Here I teach you a CBT skill for how to deal with a fear or phobia that is getting in your way, creating a lot of anxiety or holding you back, so you can do what you want or need to do without feeling anxious.
Having the strong urge to control other people is something many people struggle with and is rooted in either fear or anxiety. Being too controlling can have a negative impact on both your own mental health and on the health of your relationships. You may not realize the things you're doing regularly are an attempt to control others, so we're going to talk about theme here today because when awareness is the first step toward positive change.
Ever wish certain things didn't bother you as much as they do? Do you ever envy other people who seem to be able to take whatever life has for them and not get too bothered about it either way? Ever wonder what it takes to not be so affected by criticism, failure, hardship or struggle? In this episode of Good For Me TV, we're going to talk about 3 simple, but powerful ways we can build more mental toughness.
We all get triggered. It doesn’t matter how emotionally intelligent or emotionally mature you are, there are times that things get under our skin, get our blood boiling, or just make us plain angry. And contrary to popular belief, anger is neither a bad or good emotion - like all others, it's just an emotion. But it’s how we deal with our anger and how we respond to it that can be used for good or evil. In this episode of Good For Me TV today, we're going to talk about 5 ways that emotionally [...]
It can be tempting to think that we need people to agree with our choices - even if those choices have no impact on those with whom we are seeking approval. The question is, why do you think you need to justify your decisions and get their approval? Could it be okay for someone else to not agree with our approve of your choices? Here, we dive deeper into this topic.
All of us are going through life with certain perspectives, ideas or stories about the way things are - or at least the way we think they are We all have 'truths' that govern our lives, but sometimes these truths are not actually very true at all, and can even become unhealthy, unhelpful, unserving and unproductive ways of seeing ourselves, others and the world. In this episode of Good For Me TV, we're going to talk about 5 powerful mindset shifts that may offer you a different way to understand some things that will help [...]
It does NOT feel good to have people walk all over you, take you for granted, take advantage of you or just generally ask a lot and give little to no appreciation. The truth is, you are letting it happen because you don't know why it's happening or how to make it stop. In today's talk I tell you about why people are walking all over you, and what you can do to make it stop
Do you self-sabotage? Do you know what self-sabotage is? The truth is if you're not reaching your goals, having the types of healthy relationships you want or are not where you want to be in life chances are you could be self-sabotaging. In today’s video of Good For Me TV, we are going to talk about what self-sabotage is, what the key signs are that you're doing it, and how to deal with that self-sabotaging behavior if you are.
Do you know those people who seem to be more calm and grounded and happier in general? You might ask yourself, how do they do it? What’s their secret? How can they look so happy and calm? How can I be like them more? You are not alone. We all want to become more calm and happy despite the stress, problems, and anxiety that life can bring. In this episode of Good For Me TV, we are going to talk about the 5 simple things that you can intentionally do right now to become calm, [...]
We are emotional beings who can sometimes be rational so learning how to be emotionally intelligent is going to make our lives much easier. When we are more emotionally intelligent we get better at not getting caught up in any and every "negative" emotion that comes up, and get better at both understanding ourselves and moving through painful, difficult or uncomfortable emotions. In this talk I teach you how.
There are certain things people who are more secure just don’t do. It’s not necessarily because they don’t want to do these things at times, but because they know that even if doing these things might feel good in the moment, the longer-term impact will be unhealthy, detrimental and even have harmful effects on their self-esteem and their sense of self-worth, so they do their best to make a habit of not doing them. In today’s episode of Good For Me TV, we're going to talk about the 5 things that people who are more [...]
One part of the healthy boundary setting process is learning how to set our own boundaries, but it's also about learning how to respect other people's boundaries - which, if you're not used to, can be really difficult at first. Here's what you need to know about other people's boundaries, and how to make sure you are treating their boundaries with respect just as you want them to treat yours the same way.
What is an emotional boundary and why are they so important for our peace, joy and happiness? Here you're going to learn 6 different emotional boundaries and examples on how to set them in different situations so you can feel less stressed, resentful and overwhelmed, and more calm, confident and happy.
This is a simple little trick for shutting down a negative thought. This tool is best used for those unrelenting stubborn negative thoughts that seem to come up when we’re having a moment of vulnerability or a moment of weakness. In this video I teach you this trick of how to stop a negative thought, and the brain science behind how and why it's effective. It's one of my favourites because it's simple and it works.
You may need better boundaries - and I say this because most of us need better, healthier boundaries. Many of our biggest struggles in life are caused by us not setting, and keep our clear, yet kind and firm boundaries. In this talk you'll learn what boundaries you are letting people cross without realizing it, and what to do about it.
There are things you may be apologizing for or feeling guilty about and likely not letting yourself do that are actually causing you a lot of harm. By apologizing for these things you are preventing yourself from living fully and freely. So in today’s episode of Good For Me-TV, we are going to talk about the 3 things you need to stop apologizing for.
We all have thoughts, ideas and beliefs that we have learned throughout our lives that are now holding us back, and keeping us stuck and struggling in our lives. In this talk, I teach you what 10 of these lessons are, and how to start unlearning them now so you can feel happier in your life and have more rich and rewarding relationships with both yourself and others every day.
There are things emotionally strong people do every day. They do these things to meet essential needs that we all have, but they make a point of making sure they respect them. Emotionally strong people know that by making these 4 emotional strength building things non-negotiable they are going to be happier, heartier and more self-loving In this episode of Good For Me-TV, we are going to talk about how to become emotionally strong by using these 4 so you can start making a habit of getting going on them too! *Based in part on [...]
It doesn't feel great to compare yourself to others and feel like you don't measure up. it's also really hard on your self-esteem and makes it much more difficult to be comfortable and confident in who you are if you're always thinking you're inferior to others or nothing you do is ever good enough. Here I teach you the key steps to overcome your inferiority complex so you can feel more confident and sure of who you are.
If you often have a hard time making decisions or stop yourself from trying new things before you even start, or you stress out and worry about what other people are thinking about you or even get in your head and often scrutinize your imperfections and pick yourself apart then you, my friend struggle with perfectionism. In today’s episode of Good For Me-TV, I'm teaching you the 5 lies of perfectionism that are trying to get you to believe, and how to turn these limiting beliefs on their head.
If you struggle with toxic shame - in other words, you feel like you're a bad, flawed, broken or unworthy human at a core level - it's going to make feeling good about yourself and your life near impossible. There are several signs that you are living with toxic shame that I teach you here, and then I will teach you 6 steps to start overcoming debilitating shame.
There are fundamental mindset shifts that many people who are confident have had at some point in their journey that has allowed them to step into and own that confidence. And in this episode of Good For Me-TV, we are going to talk about what 5 of these mindset shifts are so that you too can start feeling a whole lot more confident and comfortable with exactly who you are now.
Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? And if so, is this a bad thing? Yes, there are definitely some challenges that can come up for HSP’s* but there are also some serious benefits to it. In this episode, I talk about how to know if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, the signs that you're a highly sensitive person and what some of the struggles and strengths of being one are.
It does NOT feel good to be taken advantage of, manipulated, or coerced or controlled by guilt. And many of you are letting it happen because you don't know why it's happening or how to make it stop. In today's episode of Good for Me-TV, I tell you about why people are taking advantage of you, and what you can do to get them to stop taking advantage of you.
It can be frustrating when you're really tired, but just can't seem to fall asleep because you're either feeling anxious, can't stop overthinking, or both. However, insomnia because of an overactive mind at night is something that can be significantly improved, and also go away completely for many when you apply tips like these. Here I'll teach you how to fall asleep fast with several effective strategies.
There are specific things that confident people don’t do. Why? Because they know that falling into the trap of doing these things is going to make them feel insecure, self-doubting, and unsure. Confident people know that being intentional about not letting themselves do these things is both going to help them become more confident and is also going to help them maintain that confidence. In this episode of Good For Me-TV, we talk about what 5 things confident people don’t do and what you can do right away to start making these big confidence-boosting shifts [...]
Have you ever felt that it is your job to make everyone around you happy no matter what the cost is to you? And if they're not happy, it is your fault and up to you to make them better? Don't worry, you are so not alone, I've been there too and people pleasing is no joke. And it can be hard to stop people pleasing because we're often worried that people won't like us if we don't do everything they want all the time. Not to say that taking care of other people is [...]