As much as we wish it would, life doesn't always go the way we want it to - and when it doesn't go according to our plan we have a few options. We can learn ways to keep going, create a new plan or give up. Here we're going to talk about how to keep going and get back on track when life is not going your way. Get my book DRIVE YOUR OWN DARN BUS here, or at any major online book retailer: https://www.amazon.com/Drive-Your-Own...
There’s a piece of self-help advice out there that comes across as a motivational and inspirational self-help tip on the surface, but has a really harmful if not dangerous message underneath it. Sometimes it's said to help people get better self-esteem or to feel good about themselves, but it can often have the exact opposite effect. In this episode of Good for Me TV, I talk about what this harmful message is and why it can cause a whole lot of shame and self-rejection - which is the last thing any of us needs.
Sometimes it can seem like someone is confident and secure, but you find that they do things that just don't sit right with you and you can't figure out why. Well, chances are, if something seems off, it likely is, and it could very well be that the person is secretly insecure. But how do you know? How do you tell if someone who appears confident on the outside is secretly insecure on the inside? But how do you know if someone is really insecure? In this episode of GoodForMeTV, I'm going to teach you [...]
There are less common signs of anxiety that can indicate you are struggling with anxiety without knowing it. These signs don't necessarily mean you have a clinical diagnosis of generalized anxiety disorder, but when we can understand better what's going on inside of us we can track down the right tools to help us feel and live better - and stop feeling so anxious.
For those among us who are struggling with anxiety, there are things you may be unintentionally doing to make your anxiety worse, and so today we're going to talk about some unhealthy coping methods for anxiety and some healthy coping methods for anxiety so you can know how to deal with anxiety better.
Just because you become a chronological adult, it doesn't mean you automatically become an emotional adult - Emotional maturity is something that is built over time. Here are 7 signs you are building your emotional intelligence and becoming emotionally mature. They are deep ones, so take notes if you need to.
Working on your relationship with yourself is one of the most important things you can do because you have to live with yourself every day from the day you're born, until the day you die. Your self-esteem is important and here I talk about signs that you are building your self-love and becoming more secure in yourself.
You know those times when you get stuck in a conversation you don't want to be in or that you don't have time for, but you don't know how to interject, and even if you do, you don't know what to say to end the conversation in a clear, but kind way? It can be hard to know what to do or how to end a conversation without being rude, but there are several things that you can do to end a conversation politely so you can be in charge of your time.
An effective (and simple) way to process your emotions can be done by doing specific writing exercises. When we journal our emotions we are able to see them almost through a third party view point which can give us more clarity, and help us understand better what's going on inside of us.
It can be hard to build close friendships as an adult - especially if you’ve moved to a new city, outgrown your current friends, or are entering into a new stage in life and want to find other people with who you have more in common. But like anything, building something strong can take time and effort - and even though it can seem overwhelming at times, as social beings we need good friends to be happy, so it’s worth it. Part of how to make friends involves being intentional about how to be a [...]
When we get stuck in our cognitive distortions it can be challenging to see the situation for what it really is, and this can lead to feelings of anxiety and/or depression. Learning CBT skills to identify your cognitive distortions will help you see more clearly what your brain is doing, and how to change your thoughts into ones that are more helpful.
Have you met or have known people that are just super likeable? Those people who draw you in and are super magnetic? Those people, who, when you're with them, you feel good about yourself? So what is it about them? What are they doing to be likeable, and how did they become so magnetic? It’s not because they're a special, magical unicorn person. It's because they're doing specific things and they are being intentional about showing up in specific ways that naturally make them more likeable and magnetic people. In today’s episode of GoodForMeTV, we're [...]
If you want to build confidence there are some simple things you can do right that will help you feel more confident every day. They are simple, but powerful at helping to change your brain into a more confident one when you practice them on a regular basis.
In the special episode of Good for Me TV Scott Ste Marie of Depression to Expression (https://www.youtube.com/user/ScottThought) and I talk all about what happiness really is - what makes people truly happy, what doesn't, the connection between mindfulness and happiness, and how to be happy every day. We also talk about the brain science behind why more stuff won't make you happy and neither will getting somewhere or becoming someone.
Managing anger can feel really hard sometimes. Especially when seemingly small things tend to set you off. But, learning some anger management skills to both help you manage the anger when it shows up, and going deeper to get to the root of the anger will help a lot.
What does it take to become more emotionally secure? Is it something that just comes easily and naturally to some people, and for the rest of us, all we can do is hope? Or is this something that can be built? The truth is, there are people who do find it easier to be confident, and maybe it does come more naturally to them, but what makes people confident can be learned and practiced and grown in anyone. In today’s episode of GoodForMeTV, I’m going to teach you 5 things secure people do and things [...]
Getting defensive is something we do at times - for some of us, a lot of the time. And regardless of why we feel defensive, the truth is, it's not good for us or our relationships. In this talk, we're going to go over why we get defensive and what steps we can take when we're triggered so we don't act out in a defensive way, and instead, an emotionally mature one.
Confidence is actually pretty easy to get - and I'm going to guess that when you're searching around the internet for how to become more confident, more often than not, it's not really what you're looking for. What you're looking for is something different. When you think you're looking for self-confidence improvement, what you're likely looking for is self-esteem improvement. And in today’s episode of GoodForMeTV, I am going to talk to you about why confidence isn’t what you likely need more of, and what the difference is between self-esteem and self-confidence.
It can be hard to be stuck in indecision and not be able to make a decision. Especially when the best decision is not clear. In this talk, we're looking at how to deal with indecision so you don't have to feel stuck and not know what to do.
What makes some people more confident? Is it just the way they are? Or are they doing intentional things that help to build their confidence every day? And the answer is…. YES! It’s actually both. To be self-confident it's important to build that self-confidence by making specific choices about what you do and say and think every day. Here we're going to talk about 8 simple habits confident people do that help them boost their confidence from the inside out.
There are messages all over social media telling you that you just need to start loving yourself - so why aren't you doing it? Well, I'll tell you why. Because it's not as simple as just deciding one day that you're going to love yourself, and then poof! you do. There are good reasons you don't love yourself, and many of them include little things you are unconsciously and unintentionally doing, or not doing, every day that is making it so you can't like yourself let alone love yourself. So today I'm going to teach [...]
There are some hard truths that many of us resist, and the more we resist these truths the more pain and suffering we create for ourselves. In this talk, I'm going to teach you 6 hard truths you may not want to hear, and why the radical acceptance of these truths is important for your happiness and wellbeing.
Have you ever wondered why no matter what you do you never feel good enough? You've accomplished a lot and have had success in at least a few areas of your life, but you still can't figure out how to feel good about yourself and your accomplishments. Here we're going to talk about the brain science reasons why you have that inner critical voice that often won't let up and makes you feel like you're not good enough, no matter what you do, and what you can do to get it to back off, at [...]
There are several strategies for coping with difficult, uncomfortable or painful emotions that get a bad wrap, even though they can actually be helpful in some circumstances. Here I talk about 6 of these coping mechanisms, and how you may want to use them next time you're experiencing difficult emotions and don't know what to do.
Do you know what it takes to be successful? We often think it's because of what someone does or doesn't do, and that's true, but that's not it. That's not the full story. Yes, successful people do a lot to build their success, but the question is, how do they stay motivated to keep going when things feel hard. Because keeping yourself motivated to move forward is essential if you want to keep moving forward and build success. Here I'm going to teach you 5 ways that successful people think so that you too can [...]
Thinking you're being left out can bring up feelings that are really painful. More often than not, when we think we're intentionally being left out, we aren't, but sometimes we are. Here I talk about what to do when you both think you're being left out and when you're quite certain that you are.
Most of us wish there were more than 24 hours in a day so we could get more done and feel less stressed. But the truth is, you don't actually need more time. What you likely need is to learn how to be smarter with the time you have. There are a lot of things you're doing that are a waste of your time - and several of them you're probably not even aware of. In this episode of Good for Me TV we're going to uncover many of them and learn how to handle [...]
Being fully satisfied with life all of the time is not possible - for anyone. But becoming more satisfied than you currently are is possible. In this talk I share with you some very common - yet avoidable things that my be making you dissatisfied with your life and what to do about them.
Relationships. We are hard-wired for connection and need healthy relationships to be truly happy. But the thing is, we were never really taught what it takes to have strong relationships,, and if your role models weren't the best, you may be finding yourself really struggling with this one. So what do we do? We make small, intentional mindset and action-based shifts every day that help us build those strong, healthy, satisfying relationships with both our partners, our family members, and our friends.
There are a few key differences between being a people pleaser, and being a genuinely kind and generous person - and in this talk I'm going to show you them. If you have been people pleasing, this talk is also going to teach you how to stop being a people pleaser.