Everyone needs healthy boundaries in their lives if they want to have healthy relationships. Setting boundaries is about more than just saying no - and when you learn how to set boundaries in a way that people will listen to and respect you will not only feel more free, but you will also start breaking the cycle of people-pleasing and codependence.
There are several things you may be taking responsibility for that you don't need to be, and doing so is likely causing you a lot of extra stress, overwhelm, anxiety, worry, and maybe even some anger. Today we're going to talk about what 10 of them are, why many of them are tied to people-pleasing and some are even unintentional boundary violations, and how to stop taking these ones on.
Most of us think our happiness lies in things outside of us - but the truth is, our happiness starts and ends in our thoughts. What and how we think will determine how we feel at any given moment and the more we think on purpose the thoughts that are helpful and serving, the more we don't have to wait to be happy and can be happier now.
There are several things you may not be taking responsibility for that you are responsible for, and not taking responsibility for them, it's impacting your self-esteem, your confidence, and your overall happiness in life. Today we're going to talk about what 10 of them are, why many of them are tied to co-dependence, avoidance, and not allowing ourselves to live our best lives. Taking responsibility for these big ones will not only help you build self-love, but they will also allow you to step into and stop avoiding your life.
Emotional intelligence is something anyone can build by increasing their emotional awareness, self-awareness and their awareness of others. In this video, you're going to get a feel for how emotionally intelligent you are and also become more self-aware so you can build your emotional intelligence however you think it necessary.
Get some exercise, eat healthily, do your gratitude list... These are all ways to get into a better mood naturally, but today I'm going to teach you some less common ways to be happy now that work really well as natural mood boosters and will help you turn the ship around when things start going south.
We all take things PERSONALLY. It’s often hard not to especially if it feels like it really IS personal. And it may be easy to say "don't take it personally" to someone, but often it's a lot more complicated than that. Here I'm going to teach you why it's so hard to not take things personally, why nothing is actually personal and a process to take yourself through when you do find yourself getting hurt or offended and taking something personally and learn how to not take it personally.
The term ruminate means to think a thought over and over in your mind. Rumination is about getting stuck in your thoughts and then having a hard time stopping them, and then often getting upset or anxious because you don't know how to stop ruminating. In this talk I'm going to teach you some skills to help when it seems like your thoughts won't stop.
For many of us, we believe saying 'no' is hard, so we don’t do it. And then we end up feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, frustrated, angry, and resentful because we're saying yes to things we don't want to do in order to avoid feeling guilty, selfish, uncaring, or rigid. But the truth is, saying 'no' doesn't mean we have to feel any of these things if we're able to change our mindset around what it means when we say no, and if we also have a step-by-step process to follow when doing so. So here [...]
Sometimes we need to create space for our feelings, we need to feel our feelings, we need to understand and process our feelings, and sometimes we need to get in there and snap ourselves out of a bad mood and get out of a funk by using some simple brain hacks to get yourself to feel happy. In this episode of GoodForMeTV, I am going to teach you 7 quick, simple, and effective ways to turn your thoughts around so you can turn your mood around so you can start feeling good right away. If [...]
We think we want to be normal because we think we're not. But the truth is, most of us are very normal, but the things that make us normal are holding us back and making us unhappy. So, if you want to learn how to be happier, learn to not be normal.
Do you find it hard to know what to say to someone who's struggling? How to be supportive, show them that you care, or even just get them to open up to you? It's often hard to know what to say to someone who is struggling. Usually, when someone tells us about something that they are going through that's difficult, painful, or upsetting, we want to be helpful, but often end up saying things that aren't.
When a friend or family member opens up to us about something tough they're going through it can be really hard to know what to do or say. How can we show them that we're there for them? How do we let them know we support them? What can we say that will help? It's tough to know what they need from us in those moments so sometimes we don't end up saying anything for fear of saying the wrong thing, or we say something that makes the person shut down or get defensive - [...]
You may be tempted to deal with your triggers by avoiding everything or everyone that triggers you. Although that will help you feel better in the moment, it will make life a lot harder for you overall. Instead, here's an emotionally intelligent way of managing your triggers that will help you a lot more.
Healthy boundaries are essential for our health, happiness, and the quality of our relationships. But many among us don't even know what a boundary is, let alone how to set healthy ones. But we need healthy boundaries in our relationships with others and with ourselves. There is a lot of information out there on how to set strong boundaries but most of it is not accurate. So, today, we're going to clear a few things up about boundaries and I'm going to equip you with some tools and information so you can go and start [...]
No matter how old we are, emotional maturity is something we can all be working on more - not because being emotionally mature makes us better, more valuable people, but because we feel better when we're more in charge of our minds and emotions and are less reactive to everything (and everyone) around us. Today, in this episode of GoodForMeTV, we're going into how emotionally mature you are and the 5 key signs you're emotionally mature right now.
We often think that it's the big things that will make us happier, but it's engaging in small things on a regular basis that truly makes life better. When we're struggling, most of us want to feel better and have a happy life, and this list is intended to do just that.
When you start setting boundaries, you're going to get pushback and your boundaries are going to bring out the emotional maturity of those closest to you. But that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong or that you should stop setting boundaries. In fact, it usually means you're doing something right. Here's the kind of pushback you'll likely get when you set a boundary with family, and what to do about it when you do.
You may be sabotaging yourself, your happiness, your success, and your relationships without even knowing it. We all have subconscious habits, beliefs, and patterns that we're doing that are keeping us stuck, holding us back, and leaving us feeling frustrated and confused. Here I teach you 3 very common self-sabotage habits you may be doing and what to do about them so you can stop sabotaging yourself.
Taking on and absorbing other people's problems can make you think that it means you really care about them, but it's actually not entirely true and is a form of codependency that can be harmful to both you and your relationships. Here I talk about how to stop absorbing other people's problems and alternate ways to show you care.
What do you want for yourself or for your life this year? How will you take massive action in 2020 to get the life you want? How will you reset your life and get where and what you want this year? In this video, I walk you through a powerful but simple way to reach your goals. This is how to get where you want in life and how to get to your goals faster.
Most of the things we're doing to boost our self-esteem are completely wrong. We tend to focus on external things like changing our career or changing the way we look to in order to increase our self-esteem but that's not the way it works. Whenever we make changes on the outside to solve issues on the inside we set ourselves up for failure. This is not the key to confidence or how we build self-esteem.
If your brain has been feeling out of control lately and you've been overthinking a lot and you want to learn how to stop overthinking - this talk is for you. Here we're talking about 5 steps to get out of your head so you can feel calmer and in charge of your mind and emotions. These strategies based on CBT, radical acceptance, and mindfulness will also help if you've been struggling with either anxiety or depression.
Whether you're worrying about something that could happen in the future or stressing about something that happened in the past, overthinking is distracting and draining. On a deeper level, it's a form of self-sabotage, and on a more surface level, we do it to try and protect ourselves from vulnerability.
The biggest thing that holds any of us back is our own minds - specifically, the thoughts our minds think and our willingness to believe them. When you become aware of your thoughts and learn how to manage them so they can stop controlling you, and thereby stop overthinking so much, your life will open up to so much more.
How do you handle intense emotions when you get triggered? It's not always easy to take a step back and control your emotions when the more intense ones show up. So here we're going to talk about what to do when you're emotionally triggered so you can build your emotional intelligence and feel more confident and in charge of your reactions in any situation.
The Bad News: As humans, we are resistant to change. The Good News: We are also one of the most adaptable creatures on the planet. We don’t do well with an extreme change that happens all at once but we really do well with small, incremental changes one little bit at a time. In today’s episode of GoodForMeTV, we are going to talk about 7 simple habits that you can start working on a little bit right now that are going to change your life.
Self-sabotage is something a lot of us are doing without even knowing it. But self-sabotage shows up in small, everyday things with think or do without even realizing it. In this video, I show you 34 signs of self-sabotage so you can become aware of any you're doing and work to stop doing them. If you're feeling stuck, frustrated, and not getting what or where you want in life, chances are you're sabotaging yourself.
A lot of us struggle with guilt. It is a complex topic and can be muddled to a lot of things like shame and remorse. In today’s talk, I'm going to teach you the difference between guilt, shame, and remorse, how we often get guilt and shame mixed up, and why this is a major problem. I'm going to teach you how to understand guilt, how to deal with guilt, how to let go of guilt, and how to stop using guilt, because the truth is, it's a sneaky form of manipulation.
You're not a failure. You might think that you're failing yourself because you haven't always gotten the results you want that you are, but you're not. Here I'm going to teach you both how to stop feeling like a failure and how to succeed at your goals. This talk will give you the motivation to keep going when you feel like giving up.