There are several things you may not be taking responsibility for that you are responsible for, and not taking responsibility for them, it's impacting your self-esteem, your confidence, and your overall happiness in life. Today we're going to talk about what 10 of them are, why many of them are tied to co-dependence, avoidance, and not allowing ourselves to live our best lives. Taking responsibility for these big ones will not only help you build self-love, but they will also allow you to step into and stop avoiding your life.

Get some exercise, eat healthily, do your gratitude list... These are all ways to get into a better mood naturally, but today I'm going to teach you some less common ways to be happy now that work really well as natural mood boosters and will help you turn the ship around when things start going south.

We all take things PERSONALLY. It’s often hard not to especially if it feels like it really IS personal. And it may be easy to say "don't take it personally" to someone, but often it's a lot more complicated than that. Here I'm going to teach you why it's so hard to not take things personally, why nothing is actually personal and a process to take yourself through when you do find yourself getting hurt or offended and taking something personally and learn how to not take it personally.

For many of us, we believe saying 'no' is hard, so we don’t do it. And then we end up feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, frustrated, angry, and resentful because we're saying yes to things we don't want to do in order to avoid feeling guilty, selfish, uncaring, or rigid. But the truth is, saying 'no' doesn't mean we have to feel any of these things if we're able to change our mindset around what it means when we say no, and if we also have a step-by-step process to follow when doing so. So here [...]

Sometimes we need to create space for our feelings, we need to feel our feelings, we need to understand and process our feelings, and sometimes we need to get in there and snap ourselves out of a bad mood and get out of a funk by using some simple brain hacks to get yourself to feel happy. In this episode of GoodForMeTV, I am going to teach you 7 quick, simple, and effective ways to turn your thoughts around so you can turn your mood around so you can start feeling good right away. If [...]

Do you find it hard to know what to say to someone who's struggling? How to be supportive, show them that you care, or even just get them to open up to you? It's often hard to know what to say to someone who is struggling. Usually, when someone tells us about something that they are going through that's difficult, painful, or upsetting, we want to be helpful, but often end up saying things that aren't.

When a friend or family member opens up to us about something tough they're going through it can be really hard to know what to do or say. How can we show them that we're there for them? How do we let them know we support them? What can we say that will help? It's tough to know what they need from us in those moments so sometimes we don't end up saying anything for fear of saying the wrong thing, or we say something that makes the person shut down or get defensive - [...]

Healthy boundaries are essential for our health, happiness, and the quality of our relationships. But many among us don't even know what a boundary is, let alone how to set healthy ones. But we need healthy boundaries in our relationships with others and with ourselves. There is a lot of information out there on how to set strong boundaries but most of it is not accurate. So, today, we're going to clear a few things up about boundaries and I'm going to equip you with some tools and information so you can go and start [...]

No matter how old we are, emotional maturity is something we can all be working on more - not because being emotionally mature makes us better, more valuable people, but because we feel better when we're more in charge of our minds and emotions and are less reactive to everything (and everyone) around us. Today, in this episode of GoodForMeTV, we're going into how emotionally mature you are and the 5 key signs you're emotionally mature right now.

When you start setting boundaries, you're going to get pushback and your boundaries are going to bring out the emotional maturity of those closest to you. But that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong or that you should stop setting boundaries. In fact, it usually means you're doing something right. Here's the kind of pushback you'll likely get when you set a boundary with family, and what to do about it when you do.

You may be sabotaging yourself, your happiness, your success, and your relationships without even knowing it. We all have subconscious habits, beliefs, and patterns that we're doing that are keeping us stuck, holding us back, and leaving us feeling frustrated and confused. Here I teach you 3 very common self-sabotage habits you may be doing and what to do about them so you can stop sabotaging yourself.

What do you want for yourself or for your life this year? How will you take massive action in 2020 to get the life you want? How will you reset your life and get where and what you want this year? In this video, I walk you through a powerful but simple way to reach your goals. This is how to get where you want in life and how to get to your goals faster.

Most of the things we're doing to boost our self-esteem are completely wrong. We tend to focus on external things like changing our career or changing the way we look to in order to increase our self-esteem but that's not the way it works. Whenever we make changes on the outside to solve issues on the inside we set ourselves up for failure. This is not the key to confidence or how we build self-esteem.

Whether you're worrying about something that could happen in the future or stressing about something that happened in the past, overthinking is distracting and draining. On a deeper level, it's a form of self-sabotage, and on a more surface level, we do it to try and protect ourselves from vulnerability.

How do you handle intense emotions when you get triggered? It's not always easy to take a step back and control your emotions when the more intense ones show up. So here we're going to talk about what to do when you're emotionally triggered so you can build your emotional intelligence and feel more confident and in charge of your reactions in any situation.

The Bad News: As humans, we are resistant to change. The Good News: We are also one of the most adaptable creatures on the planet. We don’t do well with an extreme change that happens all at once but we really do well with small, incremental changes one little bit at a time. In today’s episode of GoodForMeTV, we are going to talk about 7 simple habits that you can start working on a little bit right now that are going to change your life.

Self-sabotage is something a lot of us are doing without even knowing it. But self-sabotage shows up in small, everyday things with think or do without even realizing it. In this video, I show you 34 signs of self-sabotage so you can become aware of any you're doing and work to stop doing them. If you're feeling stuck, frustrated, and not getting what or where you want in life, chances are you're sabotaging yourself.

A lot of us struggle with guilt. It is a complex topic and can be muddled to a lot of things like shame and remorse. In today’s talk, I'm going to teach you the difference between guilt, shame, and remorse, how we often get guilt and shame mixed up, and why this is a major problem. I'm going to teach you how to understand guilt, how to deal with guilt, how to let go of guilt, and how to stop using guilt, because the truth is, it's a sneaky form of manipulation.

It is my commitment to you that nothing I post online is going to be fear-mongering or contribute to any hysteria or anxiety about what is happening during this global coronavirus pandemic. My goal is to create and provide a space for you that is grounding, safe and helpful. In this talk, we're going to take a step back, and learn tools to stay calmer and grounded when all our brains want to do is panic and freak out over coronavirus. I'm going to teach you how to cope better and feel better when everything [...]

We're all feeling a lot of emotions right now, and our brains are having a hard time making sense of what's going on in the world. Some are feeling anxious about the coronavirus and the impact it's going to have on us directly, how it's going to impact the economy or our jobs. And some are feeling lonely and disconnected because of social distancing and social isolation. Coping with the Coronavirus outbreak isn't easy for most of us, and I'm going to teach you some tools to help you cope with the Corona Crisis better.

When things are uncertain, we usually default to either fear or anger and it's because the human brain hates uncertainty. Whether it's uncertainty about a global pandemic or about a meeting with your boss - when things are uncertain, our brain tries to protect us by imagining the worse case scenario - whether it's actually helpful or not. In today’s episode of Good For Me TV, I teach you 6 key mindset shifts that are going to calm your anxiety both during this coronavirus pandemic, and they are also perspective shifts you can apply to [...]

  There is a lot of uncertainty happening in the world right now - for all of us. And needless to say, it can be really stressful and anxiety-provoking. It's tough to know how to deal with uncertainty and it requires a kind of mental strength that has nothing to do with toughening it out. In fact, it's the exact opposite. How mentally strong people deal with uncertainty might surprise you, and I'm going to teach you how they do it here now.

We're going to talk about grief. Not the grief of losing a loved one, but the grief of losing something every single one of us has lost in the last month - our plans of how we thought our lives were going to go for at least the first half of this year. And although it may not be as serious as losing a loved one, it still hurts and it's still hard and our brains may be having a hard time with it- and that's okay. We're also going to talk about how move [...]

Being around people who tend to be more negative can be challenging. Let's face it - it can be downright annoying. But there is something we can do about it that doesn't involve cutting them off completely. I'm going to teach you empowering ways to deal with negative people - or at least those people who tend to be more negative than we'd prefer.

This talk on my channel, @Julia Kristina Counselling, is about the difference between being an empath and being co-dependent. Although two can be related, someone who experiences codependency isn't necessarily someone who is more empathic and vice versa. Here we're going to talk about the key difference between being and empath and being codependent and what if you experience both, what will help you be a caring, sensitive person without the struggles that come with relating to others in a co-dependent way.

Although it often feels better to have a positive mindset vs a negative one, there is a dark side to trying to think, be and act positive all the time. Being too positive can make you feel worse if it's done in order to repress, deny or avoid other feelings may need to be experienced, and there is a danger in being too positive because part of being human means it's also okay to sometimes feel awful.

Join me for this life changing talk on Ways to Build Resilience with one of the 10 most influential psychologists of our time, one of the creators of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and a brilliant, world changing mind, Dr. Don Meichenbaum. Here are the Free Resources Dr. Meichenbaum mentioned in the interview: The Roadmap to Resilience: https://roadmaptoresilience.wordpress.com/ The Melissa Institute: https://melissainstitute.org/covid-19/

Both social anxiety and feeling socially awkward can be frustrating when all we want is to feel comfortable being ourselves no matter where we are or who we're with. The catch 22 is, the more we try to stop coming across as socially awkward or socially anxious, the more of them we become because we're trying too hard to be someone we're not. In this talk I share with you several mindset shifts to help you feel more confident in who you are right now, and worry less about what other people may be thinking [...]

Many of us went through difficult or painful things in our childhood that we may not realize have had a negative impact on us as adults. Although these weren't necessarily severely traumatic experiences, there are still many ways that your childhood affects your lifestyle and ways your childhood is affecting you now. These harmful experiences in childhood can lead to thing like self-abandonment, emotional enmeshment, people pleasing, being emotional disconnected from yourself or others, identity struggles, or unhealthy relationship patterns... to name a few. And here we're going to learn what some of those experiences [...]

We all have an ego - and if left unchecked, it will get in our way and hold us back. Many people have asked me what the ego is, how to know if your ego is running your life even if you're not full of yourself. In this talk I teach about what the ego is, how it shows up and how to start doing ego work.