There's a time and place a way to speak up for yourself, but it's not always clear when it will be helpful and/or healthy, and when it can make things worse - or create unnecessary drama. Here, you'll learn 9 different guidelines to follow the next time you're wondering if you should speak up so you can know with certainty whether or not you should.

 This talk is a little more informal as I come to you while still fighting some kind of virus that I've had for over a week now. I wanted to talk to you about whether you're taking your health for granted. Are you putting off dreams, plans, goals or deep desires that you are physically and mentally able to get going on creating for yourself and your life. If so, why? Do you have a reason? If so, is it a reason you need to stay committed to? If not, are you willing to [...]

What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation used to gain power over you by trying to make you believe you are crazy even when in reality you're actually not at all. If you are someone who second-guesses yourself often, who doesn’t trust yourself, and who frequently tries to get others to make your decisions for you, chances are at one point or another you have been gaslit. In this video, we are going to talk in detail about what exactly gaslighting is and the 9 signs to look for to know whether [...]

 If you're new to the term, Gaslighting is a form of psychological or emotional manipulation, and in more extremes cases, it’s a form of psychological or emotional abuse meant to make you feel like you are going crazy. Today, we are going to talk about the 6 specific tactics that gaslighter use to make you feel crazy.

Having needs and wanting others to meet some of those needs doesn't make you needy. There is a line between being a more healthy amount of needy, and when your needs can be too much for another person to meet. Here, I teach you how to know if you're too needy - and what to do if your neediness is becoming problematic in your most important relationships.

Gaslighting is a hot topic these days because it's a subtle but harmful type of emotional or psychological manipulation that is happening to many more among us than we realize. In the past few videos, we have been talking about what gaslighting is and how to know if you have been a victim of gaslighting. So today, we are going to talk about how to deal with the gaslighter and set very clear boundaries when you are being gaslit.

 Feeling rejected by someone you want to be close with hurts. But what happens when you think you're being rejected by someone, but they are actually not truly rejecting you - and you're just jumping to conclusions without hard evidence? Here's how to cope with feeling rejected when it's just based on an assumption rather than facts.

 Do you feel like it's all on you to make sure everyone around you is happy, has their needs met and is taken care of all the time? Do you feel good about it or is it stressing you out, is it getting way too overwhelming or are you feeling taken advantage of? I will tell you something, just this time: Stop being so nice! (It's actually making you miserable). The idea of making everybody else happy all the time and meeting all their needs may sound lovely, but the truth is, it’s causing [...]

 Guilt is a helpful emotion when it's used to deter us from doing something hurtful or harmful to someone else. But it's not a useful emotion when we use guilt to make ourselves feel badly for something we've done that isn't bad. But, we all do it. We all feel guilty for at least a few things that we don't need to feel guilty for, and here are the 13 most common ones.

 We all go through times when we don't feel good enough. When we wonder if we're lovable enough, valuable enough and worthy enough. We all struggle with our self-esteem in this way at least from time to time. Here are several things to remember when you don't feel good enough - and the more you remind yourself of them, the better you're going to feel about yourself and the more your self-confidence will grow.

Not feeling good enough, loveable enough, worthy enough - i.e. Shame - is something we all struggle with at least sometimes. And when we experience shame it can be very debilitating and it can also cause us to act out in unhelpful ways - and that can sabotage our goals, dreams and/or relationships that can make us feel even more shame. Here I teach you 3 life changing ways to move through shame that you can start using today.

 Shame is something all humans deal with - but few of us like to admit it. Not feeling good enough or feeling like there's something fundamentally wrong with you - at least sometimes - happens to everyone. Here I teach how to use emotional intelligence three different ways to start healing from shame.

Guilt from our past can sit in the back of our brains and cause us all kinds of unnecessary pain and discomfort, and it's really hard to let go of guilt when we don't know how to. Here I teach about how to let go of guilt from something you did in your past, and also from something you didn't overtly do, but are still feeling guilty about it.

 Overcoming a fear or phobia can be scary and challenging - especially when you haven't been taught the proper way to do it. Here I teach you a CBT skill for how to deal with a fear or phobia that is getting in your way, creating a lot of anxiety or holding you back, so you can do what you want or need to do without feeling anxious.

Having the strong urge to control other people is something many people struggle with and is rooted in either fear or anxiety. Being too controlling can have a negative impact on both your own mental health and on the health of your relationships. You may not realize the things you're doing regularly are an attempt to control others, so we're going to talk about theme here today because when awareness is the first step toward positive change.

It can be tempting to think that we need people to agree with our choices - even if those choices have no impact on those with whom we are seeking approval. The question is, why do you think you need to justify your decisions and get their approval? Could it be okay for someone else to not agree with our approve of your choices? Here, we dive deeper into this topic.

It does NOT feel good to have people walk all over you, take you for granted, take advantage of you or just generally ask a lot and give little to no appreciation. The truth is, you are letting it happen because you don't know why it's happening or how to make it stop. In today's talk I tell you about why people are walking all over you, and what you can do to make it stop

 We are emotional beings who can sometimes be rational so learning how to be emotionally intelligent is going to make our lives much easier. When we are more emotionally intelligent we get better at not getting caught up in any and every "negative" emotion that comes up, and get better at both understanding ourselves and moving through painful, difficult or uncomfortable emotions. In this talk I teach you how.

One part of the healthy boundary setting process is learning how to set our own boundaries, but it's also about learning how to respect other people's boundaries - which, if you're not used to, can be really difficult at first. Here's what you need to know about other people's boundaries, and how to make sure you are treating their boundaries with respect just as you want them to treat yours the same way.