Knowing how emotionally mature you are is a good starting point if becoming more mature is one of your goals. Once you know your level of emotional maturity, you can take an honest, and self-compassionate look at what you want to be working on. Emotional maturity is something that anyone can build with the right tools.
Stop saying YES to things you hate! You're likely having a hard time setting boundaries because you want to be a nice person and you don’t want to upset anyone. But even if your intentions are good, the reality is there is often still a price to pay for not having good boundaries. It can have a big impact on our happiness, our well-being, and our relationships if we are constantly and continuously feeling like we have to say yes to things that we don’t want to be doing. In this video today, we [...]
When it comes to boundaries, we don't have to either have none at all, or have rigid impenetrable ones. There is a space in between that tends to be the place where boundaries are the healthiest. This is the space where we can give ourselves the freedom to say no, but also some space in our relationships for yes.
Do you ever have trouble falling asleep? Do you ever find yourself tired and laying in bed, but just can't turn your thoughts off? Does feeling anxious, worried or stressed ever keep you from being able to get the rest you need? If so, this video is for you! This is the most simple, straightforward, and effective breathing exercise for falling asleep that you’ll ever learn. The only thing you need to know is how to count and how to breathe.
Domestic violence has become a major issue in our culture. Stats now show that between 1 in 4 and 1 in 3 women will be a victim of severe violence by an intimate partner in her lifetime. This is a serious issue that is not going away. But there is something you can do to prevent this from happening to you or someone you know. There is a way to tell whether or not your partner has the potential to become violent at some point in the relationship. In this week's episode of Good for [...]
One of those difficult and unhealthy or toxic behaviors that many of us have to deal with is passive aggressive behavior. This behavior is often referred to as covert aggression. It's one of those behaviors that we need to be aware of because it can be sneaky and really leave us feeling confused, angry or frustrated when someone is passive aggressive with us. Today, we are going to talk about the harm it can have on our important relationships, and how to deal with passive aggressive behavior.
Social Media isn't going away, which is not necessarily a bad thing, but it can be if we let it control us versus us controlling it. And because social media apps are designed to be addictive and to keep you coming back incessantly and sometimes even obsessively, it's all the more reason we put some safeguards and policies in place to keep ourselves, and our SM use in check. As much as overuse of SM can be harmful or detrimental to our mental health, a certain amount of use and certain types of use can [...]
There's a time and place a way to speak up for yourself, but it's not always clear when it will be helpful and/or healthy, and when it can make things worse - or create unnecessary drama. Here you'll learn 9 different guidelines to follow the next time you're wondering if you should speak up so you can know with certainty whether or not it will be worth it.
We all do it. We all allow unhealthy, little things into our lives that we justify or dismiss, but over time they end up adding up and can really have a negative, if not harmful, impact on our overall happiness, mental health and well-being. So today, we are going to talk about these 3 unhealthy habits to break in order to be happier - because, left unchecked these unhealthy habits can even lead to things like anxiety, depression, chronic stress, panic and serious overwhelm.
There's a time and place a way to speak up for yourself, but it's not always clear when it will be helpful and/or healthy, and when it can make things worse - or create unnecessary drama. Here, you'll learn 9 different guidelines to follow the next time you're wondering if you should speak up so you can know with certainty whether or not you should.
I have a special treat for you today on Good for Me TV! I am being joined by my friend and fellow YouTuber, Scott St. Marie, aka Depression to Expression on YouTube. Scott is as real as it gets, and is an overall awesome human. On his channel talks all about mental health and wellness, and has a wealth of knowledge and experience of his own. In this episode together we talk about some of his experience with depression, what helps him when he going through it, and why he says depression was one [...]
This talk is a little more informal as I come to you while still fighting some kind of virus that I've had for over a week now. I wanted to talk to you about whether you're taking your health for granted. Are you putting off dreams, plans, goals or deep desires that you are physically and mentally able to get going on creating for yourself and your life. If so, why? Do you have a reason? If so, is it a reason you need to stay committed to? If not, are you willing to [...]
What is Gaslighting? Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation used to gain power over you by trying to make you believe you are crazy even when in reality you're actually not at all. If you are someone who second-guesses yourself often, who doesn’t trust yourself, and who frequently tries to get others to make your decisions for you, chances are at one point or another you have been gaslit. In this video, we are going to talk in detail about what exactly gaslighting is and the 9 signs to look for to know whether [...]
If you're new to the term, Gaslighting is a form of psychological or emotional manipulation, and in more extremes cases, it’s a form of psychological or emotional abuse meant to make you feel like you are going crazy. Today, we are going to talk about the 6 specific tactics that gaslighter use to make you feel crazy.
Having needs and wanting others to meet some of those needs doesn't make you needy. There is a line between being a more healthy amount of needy, and when your needs can be too much for another person to meet. Here, I teach you how to know if you're too needy - and what to do if your neediness is becoming problematic in your most important relationships.
Gaslighting is a hot topic these days because it's a subtle but harmful type of emotional or psychological manipulation that is happening to many more among us than we realize. In the past few videos, we have been talking about what gaslighting is and how to know if you have been a victim of gaslighting. So today, we are going to talk about how to deal with the gaslighter and set very clear boundaries when you are being gaslit.
Feeling rejected by someone you want to be close with hurts. But what happens when you think you're being rejected by someone, but they are actually not truly rejecting you - and you're just jumping to conclusions without hard evidence? Here's how to cope with feeling rejected when it's just based on an assumption rather than facts.
Do you feel like it's all on you to make sure everyone around you is happy, has their needs met and is taken care of all the time? Do you feel good about it or is it stressing you out, is it getting way too overwhelming or are you feeling taken advantage of? I will tell you something, just this time: Stop being so nice! (It's actually making you miserable). The idea of making everybody else happy all the time and meeting all their needs may sound lovely, but the truth is, it’s causing [...]
Guilt is a helpful emotion when it's used to deter us from doing something hurtful or harmful to someone else. But it's not a useful emotion when we use guilt to make ourselves feel badly for something we've done that isn't bad. But, we all do it. We all feel guilty for at least a few things that we don't need to feel guilty for, and here are the 13 most common ones.
Ever have a hard time getting what you want because you don't know how to say what you want, think, need or feel? Is it because you worry about putting someone off, offending them, or coming across as demanding, overly needy or selfish? It's not always easy to speak up or stand up for ourselves and can often feel really nerve wracking or uncomfortable... But not speaking up, not being assertive, and not expressing your wants, needs and preferences when it’s about something that's important to you is taking a toll on your happiness and [...]
We all go through times when we don't feel good enough. When we wonder if we're lovable enough, valuable enough and worthy enough. We all struggle with our self-esteem in this way at least from time to time. Here are several things to remember when you don't feel good enough - and the more you remind yourself of them, the better you're going to feel about yourself and the more your self-confidence will grow.
Not feeling good enough, loveable enough, worthy enough - i.e. Shame - is something we all struggle with at least sometimes. And when we experience shame it can be very debilitating and it can also cause us to act out in unhelpful ways - and that can sabotage our goals, dreams and/or relationships that can make us feel even more shame. Here I teach you 3 life changing ways to move through shame that you can start using today.
Have you heard of mindfulness? I’m sure you have. Apparently it’s all the rage right now. But not because it's something new, mindfulness has been around for a long time - it’s just becoming well-known in the Western World because of all the research that's been done showing how it actually has the power to change our brains from a stressed and anxious one to a more calm and grounded one overall. In this episode of Good For Me TV, I teach you one of the most simple, straight-forward mindfulness exercises that you can do [...]
Shame is something all humans deal with - but few of us like to admit it. Not feeling good enough or feeling like there's something fundamentally wrong with you - at least sometimes - happens to everyone. Here I teach how to use emotional intelligence three different ways to start healing from shame.
Being grateful - it's not a bad thing, in fact it's an incredible thing! And when done properly can even be life changing. But the way we're typically told to practice gratitude has been shown in the research to not actually be effective for most people. In this episode of Good For Me TV, I’m going to tell why this is and what you can be doing instead that does work a whole lot better (without any extra effort).
Guilt from our past can sit in the back of our brains and cause us all kinds of unnecessary pain and discomfort, and it's really hard to let go of guilt when we don't know how to. Here I teach about how to let go of guilt from something you did in your past, and also from something you didn't overtly do, but are still feeling guilty about it.
Overcoming a fear or phobia can be scary and challenging - especially when you haven't been taught the proper way to do it. Here I teach you a CBT skill for how to deal with a fear or phobia that is getting in your way, creating a lot of anxiety or holding you back, so you can do what you want or need to do without feeling anxious.
Having the strong urge to control other people is something many people struggle with and is rooted in either fear or anxiety. Being too controlling can have a negative impact on both your own mental health and on the health of your relationships. You may not realize the things you're doing regularly are an attempt to control others, so we're going to talk about theme here today because when awareness is the first step toward positive change.
Ever wish certain things didn't bother you as much as they do? Do you ever envy other people who seem to be able to take whatever life has for them and not get too bothered about it either way? Ever wonder what it takes to not be so affected by criticism, failure, hardship or struggle? In this episode of Good For Me TV, we're going to talk about 3 simple, but powerful ways we can build more mental toughness.
We all get triggered. It doesn’t matter how emotionally intelligent or emotionally mature you are, there are times that things get under our skin, get our blood boiling, or just make us plain angry. And contrary to popular belief, anger is neither a bad or good emotion - like all others, it's just an emotion. But it’s how we deal with our anger and how we respond to it that can be used for good or evil. In this episode of Good For Me TV today, we're going to talk about 5 ways that emotionally [...]