This talk on my channel, @Julia Kristina Counselling, is about the difference between being an empath and being co-dependent. Although two can be related, someone who experiences codependency isn't necessarily someone who is more empathic and vice versa. Here we're going to talk about the key difference between being and empath and being codependent and what if you experience both, what will help you be a caring, sensitive person without the struggles that come with relating to others in a co-dependent way.
Although it often feels better to have a positive mindset vs a negative one, there is a dark side to trying to think, be and act positive all the time. Being too positive can make you feel worse if it's done in order to repress, deny or avoid other feelings may need to be experienced, and there is a danger in being too positive because part of being human means it's also okay to sometimes feel awful.
Join me for this life changing talk on Ways to Build Resilience with one of the 10 most influential psychologists of our time, one of the creators of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), and a brilliant, world changing mind, Dr. Don Meichenbaum. Here are the Free Resources Dr. Meichenbaum mentioned in the interview: The Roadmap to Resilience: https://roadmaptoresilience.wordpress.com/ The Melissa Institute: https://melissainstitute.org/covid-19/
Both social anxiety and feeling socially awkward can be frustrating when all we want is to feel comfortable being ourselves no matter where we are or who we're with. The catch 22 is, the more we try to stop coming across as socially awkward or socially anxious, the more of them we become because we're trying too hard to be someone we're not. In this talk I share with you several mindset shifts to help you feel more confident in who you are right now, and worry less about what other people may be thinking [...]
Many of us went through difficult or painful things in our childhood that we may not realize have had a negative impact on us as adults. Although these weren't necessarily severely traumatic experiences, there are still many ways that your childhood affects your lifestyle and ways your childhood is affecting you now. These harmful experiences in childhood can lead to thing like self-abandonment, emotional enmeshment, people pleasing, being emotional disconnected from yourself or others, identity struggles, or unhealthy relationship patterns... to name a few. And here we're going to learn what some of those experiences [...]
We all have an ego - and if left unchecked, it will get in our way and hold us back. Many people have asked me what the ego is, how to know if your ego is running your life even if you're not full of yourself. In this talk I teach about what the ego is, how it shows up and how to start doing ego work.
In this talk we go deeper into talking about ego and ego fear and how most of our fear is not about an actual threat to our safety, but about a threat to our ego. This ego fear can result in a lot of self-sabotage and unnecessary struggle that can be dealt with simply by learning how to manage the ego.
This video is part 3 of my 3 part series on ego work. Most of the time, when we're getting emotionally triggered it's because our ego is feel threatened and so it gets defensive. This triggered defensiveness can show up in many different ways and in this talk I give 7 different ways our ego shows up to try and protect us when we're feeling vulnerable or defensive and what we can do to manage the ego so the ego doesn't control us.
It can be really hard to make an effective apology if we've never learned how to do it. And as hard as it can be to put the ego aside and take personal responsibility when we've wronged someone, it is so freeing when we can own our mistakes, and then make a proper apology. Here I teach the properly apologize in 3 steps and 2 common mistakes most people make when they apologies that essentially makes the apology unhelpful.
There are so many things we've learned to feel bad about that are completely unnecessary, and feeling bad about them both serves no purpose and can also be harmful to us and hold us back in our lives.
Most people experience intrusive, invasive, anxiety provoking thoughts at some point or another. Nonetheless, it can be really disturbing and distressing when it happens - especially when you don't know how to make it stop, and when you do try to make it stop, you often end up making it worse. Here I'm going to teach you how to stop your intrusive thoughts and both retrain and then rewire your brain to be more calm when intrusive thoughts try to throw you off.
Breathing exercises are a really effective way to relieve stress & anxiety, and in this video I tell you what happens in the brain when we focus on our breath and why it's such an effective way to relieve anxiety. Then I walk you through my favourite 4-7-8 breathing exercise.
Most people think they are standing up for themselves when they're defending themselves to someone because they think that person is completely wrong about them - but that's not true. The real reason people get defensive either at work on in any of their relationships may just blow your mind.
YOU DON'T NEED THEIR APPROVAL // AKA CODEPENDENT BEHAVIOR We do things, and we don't do things, or we say things or we don't say things either because we're trying to get approval from others or we're trying to stop them from taking it away. This is a codependent behavior. And the truth is, you don't need their approval for the choices you make for yourself about the things that impact you. Stop seeking approval and start self-differentiating. I promise, it will make you so much more confident and happy than needing other people to [...]
Resentment can be a tough one because more often than not, the person we are bitter and resentful toward has no idea we resent them. There is a process to stop feeling resentful so we can let go of resentment and in this video I'm going to teach it to you.
DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE // DIFFICULT PEOPLE We all have someone in our lives that we find difficult and that we often label as a difficult person. And in this video I'm going to teach you how to deal with difficult people in a way you probably have never learned before. This tool is incredibly powerful when we're able to take a step back and reflect and respond instead of react to someone we're finding difficult. I hope you love this tool as much as I do.
BE YOURSELF//POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE Many among us are often scared to truly be ourselves. We scared to feel good about ourselves, believe in ourselves or acknowledge ourselves for who we are and the strengths and gifts we have. It can feel vulnerable to be ourselves and to create a positive self-image and we often don't know who to truly feel good about who we are because no one told us we could.
Why you can't forgive them. Forgiving someone can be really hard. It's hard to forgive when it hurts. Especially if we think that after we forgive them we have to forget what happened and get close to the person again. We think we have to forgive and forget because the saying says so, but we can absolutely forgive and not forget. You can let go of the past without forgetting that it happened and today I'm going to teach you how. #forgiveness #lettinggo #forgive
Becoming emotionally mature is not necessarily something that comes with age - it comes from doing the work. In this video I talk about what emotional maturity is and some key signs that you are emotionally mature, and some areas you might chose to focus on developing more.
I'm going to teach you how to process an emotion so you can both build emotional intelligence and learn how to deal with your emotions better. To take my teaching to the next level and learn how to apply what your learning while getting more tools, support, help and guidance every step of the way: COME AND JOIN THE SHIFT SOCIETY: https://courses.juliakristina.com/shift-society
This is a simple little trick for shutting down a negative thought. This tool is best used for those unrelenting stubborn negative thoughts that seem to come up when we’re having a moment of vulnerability or a moment of weakness. In this video I teach you this trick of how to stop a negative thought, and the brain science behind how and why it's effective. It's one of my favourites because it's simple and it works.
If you’re human, chances are you’ve felt anxious at some point in your life. And regardless of how much or how often you feel anxious, there are a lot of annoying things that anxiety can make us do that we may not realize are coming from anxiety. In this episode of Good for Me TV I talk about 7 really annoying things that anxiety can make us do, and my tip sheet below "7 Simple Ways to Manage Anxiety" will help get you started on dealing with them.
There's one major thing that's getting in the way of you and your motivation, and in this episode of Good for Me TV we're going to talk about exactly what that is and how to get motivated when you don't feel like doing something. Spoiler alert, it's not about trying harder or pumping yourself up more. It's much more simple than that, and this one simple, but transformational mindset shift will make all the difference.
How to know if you are being emotionally abused? Abuse - no matter what kind, is always about power and control. But it's not always obvious this is what's happening - especially when it comes to emotional abuse - which is why we are talking about it here in this important video. Emotional abuse is a lot more common and serious than many of us might think because it's not as obvious as other kinds of abuse, and you may not even realize you are being emotionally abused by someone in your life. Here we [...]
This is one of the simplest, most powerful and research backed happiness building exercises that anyone can do. No, it’s not about just being more grateful (although that is a good one). It’s something that can be even more powerful than gratitude... This exercise not only helps to give a serious boost to your happiness and well-being, research shows it also has one of the longest term effects of any happiness boosting exercise or activity that we can do. There are three simple steps to this exercise, and I’m going to walk you through them [...]