All behaviour is purposeful - and when we don’t do anything to intervene when we start to worry, we are choosing to continue worrying. But we don't get stuck or paralyzed by worry because there's something wrong with you, it's because on a subconscious level, staying in a pattern of worry serves a few purposes. Here I teach what these purposes are, and how developing this awareness and insight is the first step to breaking the worry cycle.
What is trauma? Why do some people get stuck in it? Why do some people struggle with the aftermath for a long time, while others can go through something traumatic and then move through and heal from it? Trauma is something that impacts a lot more people than many of us realize. Most people have been through something traumatic in their lives, but many don't talk about it because we feel alone, or ashamed or both. But there is research around why some people are able to move through their trauma, and so are [...]
The more we take a situation and let our brains run wild with all or nothing, black and white thoughts, the more emotionally reactive we become. When we think in exaggerated ways by using terms like always, never, terrible, worst, terrible, all the time, nobody, everyone etc. we get ourselves more worked up than we need to be had we practiced thinking with more nuance, and in more accurate and responsible ways. This is a skill to learn, and in this talk I teach it to you.
You know those times when you all of a sudden feel really anxious but you have no idea why? Out of nowhere you start to all anxious, and there is really nothing going on, and you find that you're not even thinking about anything that would bring on any anxiety. What is going on with that? Why does this happen? Why can we feel anxious for no apparent reason? You would be surprised how common this is and how often this comes up for people. In today’s video, we are going to talk about [...]
Because it takes more effort to step back and take responsibility for our part - no more, no less - it's a lot easier to either blame ourselves for things that weren't entirely our faults, or blame others for things that weren't theirs. But blame either way doesn't feel good, and it usually leads to someone feeling terrible, and not a lot of resolution being made. Here's how to stop getting stuck in blame either way, so you can start working towards solutions to problems.
Imposter syndrome, also known as Imposter Phenomenon, or we can just call it “self-doubt on steroids," is an intense form of self-doubt. It's something that is often felt by people when they achieve a certain level of power or success they believe they are not qualified for or good enough for. Here I talk about what Imposter Syndrome is, why it happens, and how to start moving through it and dealing with it.
If you have been feeling lonely, chances are it's because you've been isolating yourself - maybe even unintentionally. Here we talk about what social isolation looks like and some key ways to stop isolating yourself so you can feel more love and connection and less loneliness.
Sometimes we need time to ourselves because we've been feeling overwhelmed and need some quiet time to relax and recover. But at what point does our alone time go from healthy self-care to unhealthy self-isolation? Hint: If you've been feeling lonely, then you've probably crossed over into self-isolation. Here I teach you about why you might be self-isolating, and the key signs to look out for to see if you really are.
There are coping methods we learned as children that helped us get through really difficult things in our childhood. The problem is, we carry many of those same coping methods into adulthood, but they are no longer helpful to us, and are often at the root of what keeps us stuck. Here I teach you what some of those coping methods are, and then show you how to work through them to get yourself unstuck.
Do you ever notice yourself feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or totally at your limit? If you've ever felt this way, then you are in the right place. In this episode of Good For Me TV I'm going to teach you 3 simple, but seriously helpful ways to get ruthless with getting rid of the unnecessary stressors in our lives, so we can be more present, focused and connected to the things and people that matter to us most.
Comparison is something most of us struggle with. We look at something great that someone else has that we don't have and think we need to have it so we can feel good about ourselves and/or our lives. But when we're constantly looking at what others have that we don't, it often makes us feel terrible and not good enough. Here I'll teach you how to break this habit and how to stop comparing yourself to others for GOOD with 3 steps.
Do you ever feel weird, awkward, uncomfortable, anxious, worried, self-conscious when going into social situations or ] even just thinking about going into one? If so, this is social anxiety - and different people experience it to greater or lesser extents. In this video I'm going to teach you about how to deal with social anxiety, how to go through anxiety, and how to not let these feelings of anxiety stop you or prevent you from showing up and doing things that you might actually really want to be doing. So, if you ever [...]
It's often really hard to fall asleep when you're feeling anxious and can't turn your brain off or calm your body. Depression can also interfere with you're ability to stay asleep and your sleep quality, and on top of that, sleep deprivation can make depression and anxiety that much worse. The good news is, you can train your brain to sleep better using these simple strategies.
Self-love is all the rage right now and as obnoxious as it can be when people tell you you just need to "love yourself more," there is some truth to that - if we can't like ourselves it's going to make it pretty darn hard to feel confident and good about who we are. And it also makes it much more likely for us to struggle with things like low self-esteem, happiness, and even finding joy in our lives. Today, I am going to teach you about the most simple and straight-forward way to [...]
Confidence is something that is built one choice at a time, and it is also something that is destroyed one choice at a time. To feel confident in any relationship you have to be able to rely on that person - and the same goes for us. If you want to feel confident in yourself, you have to be able to make intentional and conscious decisions and then follow through on them. Here I teach you how to stop procrastinating or avoiding, and how to follow through.
The holidays are a bit of a mixed bag for most of us. Some things are exciting, lovely, and special, but there are also things that can be challenging, uncomfortable, and painful. And that’s just the truth of it. And because of the chaos, stress or difficult things that can came up whenever there are family gatherings infused with expectations and different personalities, I am going to talk with you about 5 things you can do to save at least some of your sanity over the holidays.
Depression is one of the most common mental health struggles that millions and millions of people deal with each and every day. Depression can impact anyone, and chances are, it has impacted you in some way - by you experiencing depression yourself at some point, or knowing someone who has or is struggling with it now. Medication can be a very helpful way to treat depression, but there are also non-drug remedies for depression that have been shown to be as, and in some cases more, effective than medication. Here are several non-drug treatments [...]
In this episode of Good for Me TV we are talking about sleep. Specifically, some simple tools and strategies you can start using right away to turn your thoughts off at night and start getting a good night sleep. You might be surprised how many among us are struggling with getting a good night sleep. And as more and more research is coming out showing the link between a lack of adequate rest and many physical, mental and emotional issues, we are starting to see just how important getting proper sleep really is. Sleep [...]
Depression can look differently for different people, but there are some key signs that likely mean someone is struggling with mild, moderate or even severe depression. High functioning depression is not a formal diagnosis, more more of an indication that something is not going well, and you’re depressed on the inside, even if it might not seem like it on the outside. If you connect with several signs of high functioning depression in this talk please talk to your doctor or a qualified mental health professional.
When talking about goal setting, it's not as simple as just having a big idea, having some motivation in the moment, and then thinking that's all it takes to make it a reality. But that's what often happens when it comes to New Years Resolutions, and big goal setting in general. If you want to be successful in achieving your goals and feeling good about learning, growing and moving forward, there is more to it than that. WHY NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS FAIL // HOW TO GET TO YOUR GOALS In today’s episode of GoodForMeTV, we [...]
Emotional maturity is something most have to learn because chances are you were raised and primarily influenced by those who weren't. Becoming more emotionally mature can be challenging at first because it goes against many of our learned patterns of reactions and behaviours, but once we become more aware of how those automatic reactions are not serving us or our relationships we can learn to make changes that help us feel, live and interact better.
Knowing how emotionally mature you are is a good starting point if becoming more mature is one of your goals. Once you know your level of emotional maturity, you can take an honest, and self-compassionate look at what you want to be working on. Emotional maturity is something that anyone can build with the right tools.
Stop saying YES to things you hate! You're likely having a hard time setting boundaries because you want to be a nice person and you don’t want to upset anyone. But even if your intentions are good, the reality is there is often still a price to pay for not having good boundaries. It can have a big impact on our happiness, our well-being, and our relationships if we are constantly and continuously feeling like we have to say yes to things that we don’t want to be doing. In this video today, we [...]
When it comes to boundaries, we don't have to either have none at all, or have rigid impenetrable ones. There is a space in between that tends to be the place where boundaries are the healthiest. This is the space where we can give ourselves the freedom to say no, but also some space in our relationships for yes.
Do you ever have trouble falling asleep? Do you ever find yourself tired and laying in bed, but just can't turn your thoughts off? Does feeling anxious, worried or stressed ever keep you from being able to get the rest you need? If so, this video is for you! This is the most simple, straightforward, and effective breathing exercise for falling asleep that you’ll ever learn. The only thing you need to know is how to count and how to breathe.
Domestic violence has become a major issue in our culture. Stats now show that between 1 in 4 and 1 in 3 women will be a victim of severe violence by an intimate partner in her lifetime. This is a serious issue that is not going away. But there is something you can do to prevent this from happening to you or someone you know. There is a way to tell whether or not your partner has the potential to become violent at some point in the relationship. In this week's episode of Good for [...]
One of those difficult and unhealthy or toxic behaviors that many of us have to deal with is passive aggressive behavior. This behavior is often referred to as covert aggression. It's one of those behaviors that we need to be aware of because it can be sneaky and really leave us feeling confused, angry or frustrated when someone is passive aggressive with us. Today, we are going to talk about the harm it can have on our important relationships, and how to deal with passive aggressive behavior.
Social Media isn't going away, which is not necessarily a bad thing, but it can be if we let it control us versus us controlling it. And because social media apps are designed to be addictive and to keep you coming back incessantly and sometimes even obsessively, it's all the more reason we put some safeguards and policies in place to keep ourselves, and our SM use in check. As much as overuse of SM can be harmful or detrimental to our mental health, a certain amount of use and certain types of use can [...]
There's a time and place a way to speak up for yourself, but it's not always clear when it will be helpful and/or healthy, and when it can make things worse - or create unnecessary drama. Here you'll learn 9 different guidelines to follow the next time you're wondering if you should speak up so you can know with certainty whether or not it will be worth it.
We all do it. We all allow unhealthy, little things into our lives that we justify or dismiss, but over time they end up adding up and can really have a negative, if not harmful, impact on our overall happiness, mental health and well-being. So today, we are going to talk about these 3 unhealthy habits to break in order to be happier - because, left unchecked these unhealthy habits can even lead to things like anxiety, depression, chronic stress, panic and serious overwhelm.