We often expect others to set our time and energy boundaries for us. We thing they should know how much is too much to ask, what's an appropriate or inappropriate request and what we should or shouldn't be able to do. But if they are different in their capacity for any of these things, they likely wouldn't even know where our boundaries are. In addition, we all also have time and energy boundaries - it's impossible not to have them. The issue is, our boundaries are further out than they need to be so [...]

 Anxiety is one of those challenging things so many people struggle with these days - and the thing that makes it interesting is the typical ways most people try to cope with their anxiety symptoms are the same things that tend to them feel more anxious in the long run, and can even lead to mental illness or a more significant mood disorder. That said, if you are doing any of these, know that you are not doing them on purpose. None of us wants to struggle or suffer unnecessarily - especially when it [...]

 Most people have the wrong idea about boundaries - they think boundaries will make them rigid, difficult or unkind. The exact opposite is true if you have HEALTHY ones. Healthy boundaries preserve and protect us and our relationships. Without them we can get into relationship dynamics of feeling resentful, angry, violated or unsafe. Because so few of us understand what boundaries actually are, we rarely see them working well. But when they do, it makes all the difference to your mental health and the health of your relationships. There are 6 types of boundaries [...]

 People have the wrong idea about boundaries - they think boundaries will make them rigid, difficult or unkind. The exact opposite is true if you have HEALTHY ones. Healthy boundaries preserve and protect us and our relationships. Without them we can get into relationship dynamics of feeling resentful, angry, violated or unsafe. Because so few of us understand what boundaries actually are, we rarely see them working well. But when they do, it makes all the difference in your mental health and the health of your relationships. There are 6 types of boundaries you [...]

 Why are we so hard on ourselves? Why do so many of us get stuck in self criticism and negative self talk? Do we think that if we are hard enough on ourselves for any misstep, failure or imperfection that it will miraculously cause us to have better self esteem and self confidence? But the thing is, most of us don’t even realize how dangerous our critical self talk is. In fact, it can make our mental health struggles with anxiety and depression a whole lot worse, not to mention the extra pressure and [...]

 Confidence is something most of us want at least a little more of, but it can be hard to know exactly how to build that confidence in a deep, meaningful and lasting way. Here I teach you 5 simple tweaks to how you are thinking and showing up everyday that will help you become immediately more confident. And the good news is, some of them are actually really fun. Deep lasting confidence isn't something only other people can have - it's something you can build too, and these 5 tweaks will get you well [...]

 Who do you want to become? How do you want to transform yourself? Who do you need to be? These are just a few of the messages that sound positive on the outside, but in reality are damaging our self esteem, our self confidence, and our sense of self worth. And do you know why this is? It’s because of their implied message of shame. What they are saying is who you are now is not good enough. That you can’t be yourself and feel good about it. That how to build self confidence [...]

Feeling comfortable with yourself and confident in who you are is not always easy. It's all to easy to get stuck in thinking that we're not good enough in some way, or think other people are thinking negative things about us, or even, truly believe that we're fundamentally flawed in some way, and the only way to feel comfortable with ourselves is to become something or someone else. But the truth is, becoming more comfortable with yourself is not about changing who you are, it's about accepting who you are from the inside out. Here [...]

 What is Mindfulness? Is it all about doing mindfulness meditations and mindfulness exercises? Or is it a way of being. A general attitude or outlook on life? And the answer is YES! It is both. Being mindful is just a fancy way of saying being present. And because most of us don’t spend much time actually being present, or brains don't always know how to do it on their own, which is why we have to practice it by being intentionally more mindful. In essence, mindfulness teaches us to slow down our brain, to [...]

 Do you often feel like people zone out or seem completely uninterested in what you're saying? Do you often feel like you're not really being listened to? Are you confused why people ignore you so much? But what if it's because of something you may be doing? Having good and healthy relationships where we feel valued, seen and heard does contribute a great deal to our happiness, but when we're being ignored too much it has both a negative impact on our relationships, and on how we think and feel about ourselves. This is [...]

 Do you ever feel really anxious or full of panic? And have you noticed that the harder you try to tell yourself to stop getting so worked up and just calm down, the more upset, anxious or panicked you get? Well, there's a good reason for that (and no, it's not because you're messed up or broken). It's because when you are feeling really anxious your brain is in fight or flight mode. You are literally getting ready to handle a potentially threatening situation and your brain and body are going into a visceral [...]

 Resentment can be a tough one because more often than not, the person we are bitter and resentful toward has no idea we resent them, but it causes us a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering. We usually feel resentment when someone is not meeting an expectation we have, or is not giving us the amount of consideration, care or attention that we expect them to. So what do we do? Have zero expectations ever so no one can disappoint us and we never be bitter or resentful? No, that's not the answer either, [...]

 Chronic stress is on the rise - with one report saying that 50% of Americans believe they will never feel stress free ever again. So, why is it that people are more stressed out than ever, and what are the main things people are stressed about? Is there anything we can do to reduce stress and feel stress free again? The answer is yes! And it this talk I'm going to share with you the 4 things that are causing you the most stress and a robust list of things you can start doing [...]

 You know those times when you are feeling emotionally all out of sorts and can’t figure out why? You feel like you could easily fall apart at the drop of a pin or bite the next person's head off who looks at you sideways, but you can't think of what happened to cause your emotions to be right up at the surface and ready to spill right over. Well, there may be very good reason for you to be feeling this way. Actually there may be 1 of 5 good reasons for you to [...]

 If you are deep in difficult feelings right now, but nothing you are doing is helping you feel better, this is an exercise for you. It will not make you feel immediately amazing, but it will create radical acceptance about what you are going through, and ease the suffering caused by either resisting what you are feeling, or trying to force yourself through it before you are actually ready.

 When talking about to the kind of anxiety that is rooted in our anxiety provoking thoughts, this type of anxiety comes about because of 2 things coming together - an Anxiety Equation, if you will. You must experience both of these things in order to feel anxious. In this video, I talk about what these 2 parts of the Anxiety Equation are, and what we can do to start intervening and turning them around so that we can cope with anxiety and feel less anxious. And the best part is, we only really have [...]

 Have you ever felt like you missed the day in school where they were teaching people how be awesome at life? Where they taught how to handle whatever life had for you with grace and ease? Or maybe you felt like you missed the day in school where they were teaching people how to be comfortable and confident with themselves no matter what. I'm guessing it sometimes feels like everyone else has it all figured out, and you're left on the sidelines wondering how you missed out. Have you ever felt emotionally out of [...]

 Fidget spinners --- they are all the rage right now. But what are fidget spinners anyway? Maybe you know all about them, or maybe you’ve recently heard about them for the first time and want to know more. Did you know that fidget spinners help with anxiety and with stress also? But how do fidget spinners help with anxiety and stress you might be wondering? Well, there are actually 2 major, research proven ways the help: they can be helpful for people who tend to be more jittery and fidgety when they are feeling [...]

 If you ever get stuck in overthinking a situation or struggling with intrusive thoughts this video is going to help you create space between you and your thoughts using the skill of cognitive diffusion. Using this skill is going to allow you to see beyond your thoughts instead of getting stuck in whichever one happens to pop into your brain. Intrusive thoughts can be confusing, disturbing or painful and they can make you think there's something deeply wrong with you or that you are losing your mind - but neither of those things are [...]

 Often, when we are feeling triggered by something we immediately start to feel really worked up, ramped up, or keyed up and often can’t think clearly or access the rational thoughts that would help get us through the upsetting situation in a calm, balanced and reasonable way. So what do we do? Before we have any hope of getting through the emotional sh*t storm with as much integrity and as little shame or guilt as possible, it's important we first take a few minutes to do something simple, yet productive to take the emotional [...]

 When you don't deal with your grief or when you don't deal with your loss, the pain from it can build up inside you and without having an outlet to process what you're going through, it can build up inside you and then come out in destructive ways. Each individual grieves differently, and there is no one set linear path to so, but there is a big difference between dealing with what you're going through and trying to avoid it at all cost. Here we're going to talk about 5 signs that you're not [...]

 Being a happier person doesn't have to be hard - and it doesn't have to involve hours of affirmations or always trying to look on the bright side. There are simple things you can do everyday that only take about 5 minutes, but will help you feel happier, more grounded and at peace. These are 7 of those daily habits that are backed by research and they carry a big bang for their little buck.

 I have a special treat for you today on Good for Me TV! I am being joined by my friend and fellow YouTuber, LikeKristen. Kristen is a powerhouse peer mental health YouTuber who shares on her channel about mental health advocacy, awareness, and recovery. In this video, Kristen shares openly and vulnerably about her up and down struggle with depression over the years. She also talks about what it’s like to be someone who struggles with depression, what’s really going on inside her when she's in a depressive episode, what she doesn’t find helpful [...]

 Decision making is an essential part of being human - but that doesn't mean that making hard or big decisions is always easy - especially when we don't know exactly what we should do. The good news is, there are a few important ways of seeing the decision you're trying to make in a new light that will help you make the decision when you don't know what to do, and here I teach them to you.

Learned helplessness is when someone can't seem to find resolutions to difficult situations — even when a solution is possible. People that struggle with learned helplessness tend to complain a lot, feel overwhelmed and often believe they are incapable of making any positive difference in their circumstances or their lives. In this talk I outline what learned helplessness looks like in everyday life so you can see if this is something that is holding you back. Then I teach you the 3 P's of learned optimism so you can start to feel more hopeful and [...]

 I’m guessing you’re probably getting pretty sick of hearing about all the foods that are evil and bad that you should be eliminating from your diet. And doesn’t it often feel that there is so much contradictory advice out there about what foods are terrible and which are amazing? In this episode of Good for Me TV, we will be talking about what foods to add to our diet (instead of focusing on what to eliminate) that have been shown to specifically help our mental health and well-being. These foods have also been shown [...]

 Infantilization is when an adult is being treated like a child, even though nothing about their mental, physical, social, or intellectual wellbeing requires such treatment. It can often happen with highly controlling parents, or a narcissistic parent who continues to believe that they are superior in knowledge, intellect and ability than their fully functioning, adult child/children. Without knowing it, these adult children can also be participating in this unhelpful dynamic by not adequately self-differentiating in their adult life. This dynamic is also a sign of a codependent/narcissistic dynamic in a relationship where each person [...]

 Not taking things personally is no easy undertaking. And all of us do take things personally at least some of the time. But the good news is we can get better at not taking things so personally with practice, and by working with our automatic negative thoughts. And even if we never completely stop taking things personally, we can definitely learn how to become more resilient so that when we do get knocked down, we know how to get back up as quickly as possible.

 “We have two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we speak.” - First Nations Wisdom Do you ever wonder what it takes so become a great listener? You know, the type of person people really open up to and feel completely comfortable being open, honest and real with. The type of person we all value and appreciate to the nth degree and wonder what it is about them that makes them so easy to talk to? Well, you don't have to worry any more. In this video I [...]

 Healthy boundaries are not only essential for relationships, they are also central to our mental health. In this video, I describe what it likely stopping you from setting good boundaries. Hint: it has to do with people pleasing. If you want to know how to improve your relationships, stop feeling taken for granted, be able to say no, stop feeling resentful and take back your true freedom to set and stick with your boundaries then this talk is outlines an essential skill for parents, partners, co-workers and friends.